by Jessica Smartt from Smartter Each Day – How Instagram is Killing Our Souls (Basically)
Editor’s note: Sharing this not because the writer is a homeschooling Evangelical mom who lines up with Quiverfull theology, but more as a real confession of that thing that can happen and be so devastating in the world of Quiverfull – comparing yourself to others and feeling like you don’t measure up. It’s what’s toxic and soul-destroying, not looking at Instagram or Facebook, the endless measuring of yourself against others that goes on mentally. Being free of that mindset to the point where you can look at your pals on social media that are doing those things and instead of thinking ‘Oh I am not doing that so I must really be a failure!’ you think ‘That’s so awesome! Good for them!’ and feel no need to add the stress of competition or not good enough to your life. Be happy for others doing interesting things. But know that many folks relentlessly cataloging their lives on social media are only showing the good moments, not the valleys, but the valleys are still there.
The need for connection and belonging is so deep that all this just makes me feel so sad for the writer. She’s beating herself up for no good reason at all. Please don’t fall into this trap!
And of course, summer is a great time to be active, to get in shape. While I myself was nursing a head cold that seemed to last about 47 days, my sisters were doing Burn Boot Camp at 5:15 EVERY SINGLE MORNING. People were running triathlons, and hiking 14-ers. So this made it worse. In addition to being a bad, bad Homeschool Mom, I was obviously lazy. Summer should have been a perfectly good time to finally make homemade kefir, or eat the organic kale I had ostensibly grown. But I was behind there, too.
And maybe the most painful part. Since, you know, I was already in a funk about Life, it made sense that I suddenly and tragically had no friends. I mean, I had thought I had friends. But come to think of it, where was MY BFF hashtag?!? WELL I DIDN’T HAVE ONE!!! And when was the last time we’d double dated with someone?? Why, it had been ages!!!! And goodness gracious, EVERYONE IN THE WORLD was having these exotic getaways with their 14 Bestest Ultimate Friends, and WHERE WERE MY 14 BEST FRIENDS GOING?????
And here was the irony of it all. While I had / have a wonderful life right in front of me, I kept picking up that stupid phone and making myself depressed. Like an addict. It was killing me. It was killing my soul. But I couldn’t resist! I kept scrolling, and feeling worse and worse.
Finally one day, I realized that, somehow, as a 34-year-old Formerly Mature and Positive Human Being, I had lost myself.
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