Quoting Quiverfull: Spanked For Refusing Sex?

Quoting Quiverfull: Spanked For Refusing Sex? September 28, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Does the Bible Allow a Husband to Spank His Wife? (top article on his site)

Editor’s note: I’m amazed that anyone writes to Larry asking for advice because his advice is usually so very creepy and abusive. This is no better. Not once does Larry answer the question of if it is ‘right’ to divorce a man that physically and emotionally abuses you, and let’s be clear here, any man who decides to punish you as if you were a child with physical abuse followed by ‘grounding’ you from leaving the house IS abusing you. Had to trim the part where the lady says she’s so exhausted and burned out by caring for the six children they have had in five years of marriage that she started taking birth control pills behind her husband’s back. He punished her for refusing sex and taking birth control pills, both of which are her decision to make, not his. Typically Larry turns this into a submission-respect-heart issue that she must apologize to the husband for.

“My husband spanked me and then grounded me because I wanted a break after having 6 children in the first 5 years of our marriage. Do I have Biblical grounds to divorce him for treating me like a child instead of his wife?

Do I have grounds for divorce because of what he has done to me?”

I do believe your husband from a Biblical perspective has the final say in all matters.  I also think you have to come to the realization that you allowed some bitterness to grow in your heart toward your husband because of his lack of considerateness toward you in regard to you getting pregnant.   So you have two areas to apologize for – one for being deceitful and going behind his back with the birth control pills and the other in holding bitterness towards him.  Yes he was wrong to (and I will get more into how he was wrong), but two wrongs never make a right.

Wife spanking is not automatically abusive. As I previously said if a wife consents to this type of physical discipline then there is no sin and there is no abuse. But even if she does not consent this does not automatically make wife spanking physical abuse but instead it may be a husband abusing his authority.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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