Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Completely….Clueless

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Completely….Clueless October 12, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.


I have a problem that I’m hoping someone out there can help me with. I am CLUELESS when a male is trying to get my attention. I didn’t realize my head was in the clouds so much until a few days ago, when my mother and I went out shopping. We were buying groceries and this one worker kept helping us, smiling, bagged our groceries, and kept bouncing around. We left, and my mother says: “You were rather cold to that boy. He did everything except slide on his knees to you”. I felt hurt, and even more upset that I might have hurt his feelings. I had smiled at him, but didn’t initiate a conversation (which he hadn’t with me). During that time I had been thinking about other things, like wrestling with the cart, wondering why the paper towels on the shelf were squashed, and remembering that we needed cat food. Anyway, now it’s occurred to me that this same situation has happened many times before, and I never caught on to what’s going on. I said that to my mother, and she whacked me with her purse in frustration. I never, ever intend to be impolite, but I’ve never been socially smooth anyways, and I feel awkward just chattering away to strange guys. Help! What can I do? My main point is that I do not want to insult or hurt someone’s feelings.

So what do you think, dear reader? Is this because girls are so isolated from real life in this lifestyle or is this girl just in need of a little friendly advice on how to know when someone else is flirting? Many of the people answering this young lady seemed to have similar experiences.

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