Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Opinions on Christian Music?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Opinions on Christian Music? October 5, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Opinions on Christian Music?

What are you guy’s opinions on Christian Music?

Examples: Casting Crowns, Mercy Me, Matthew West, Brandon Heath, Britt Nicole, Francesca Battistelli

Alright so today’s question is short and offers very little information on what the questioner thinks. But this is one of those crazy hot-button issues in all branches of Christianity, even former Christians like our own Bruce Gerencser have strong opinions on the appropriateness and place of music in faith. I’m going to throw the question out there to you guys for your opinion while quoting some of the answers given to this girl below.

This lady thinks syncopated rhythm is, uh, worldly?

I think we should be very careful with what we listen. We are christian, we are His saints, we are set apart for God. As the tabernacle meant to be holy (without any wordly influence or the priest would die) we, as the temple of God, are meant to be holy. I am going to be honest, I had never heard the examples that you wrote, so I went to Grooveshark to see what you were talking about, and… I was scared. You know, I don´t mean to be legalistic, but some of this really sounds like the music that I listened to when I was not a Christian, and some sounds like the music you can listen to in a wordly party or something like that.

Another one ignoring the fact that these hymns they are touting are merely lyrics set to the barroom songs of the time they were written.

Definitely listen to what Frank Garlock has to say about it. I find it difficult myslef to explain the technical aspects of why rock music is harmful to us, please believe me, it is. Besides being harmful to our body, it is wrong for Christians to try to make their music match that of the world. These truths are both repeated several times in Scripture.

My criteria for what music I listen to is this:
1) Does it edify and encourage me?
2) What kind of thoughts does this music evoke? (praise, joy and gratefulness…or lust, discontent and envy?)
3) Is it doctrinally sound? (is it Biblically accurate…or does it promote the idea that God is a cosmic genie, that sin is no big deal, or that Christians must fit in with the world?)

What do you think?

This entire discussion reminds me of this song by Audio Adrenaline – The Houseplant Song


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  • Mel

    Holy scary Scripture interpretation Batman!

    Lady One managed to imply that doing something impure would cause you to be killed by God by comparing the outcome of impure priests being smited by God.

    News flash: The Bible is chocked full of examples of people living impurely who were never smote. Read David for an example. Plus, if you’re going all OT legalistic on me, you should have an epic smite-episode when you are menstruating because that was a smote-able offense if you entered the temple.

  • Julia Childress

    Other than traditional hymns, I admit that I can’t stand most “Christian” music (there are some notable exceptions). My bias applies to both entertainment type music and praise songs in church. Christians seem to think that unless it’s bland, uninspired with inane lyrics, then it must be sinful. One of my notable exceptions is Sister Rosetta Tharpe, the original rock-n-roll gospel queen.

  • BCH

    The questioner is so brainwashed as to not be able to decide what to listen to? >.<

    Stock answer: Leave your abusive, delusional and ridiculous cult. Run, don't walk.

    Christian music is pure saccharin swill.

  • Nightshade

    Quickest way to kill my interest in a new song/band is for me to find out it’s ‘Christian.’

  • BlueVibe

    WTF does “Biblically accurate” even mean? People who worry about that kind of thing don’t even agree on it.

    Also, I just realized that practically everything I listen to is about lust, envy, and discontent. And substance abuse.

  • Astrin Ymris

    Oh, I don’t know– I think ‘Dare You to Move’ is a great song with a more Pagan spirituality than Christian.

  • Melody

    Oh, the memories. At my high school gospel/praise/worship music, like Michael W. Smith’s or Casting Crown’s or what not, was seen as bad! It did not take the holiness of God into account enough and it was semi-pop music anyway. Only psalms were tolerated….

    I felt like a really lucky girl that my parents weren’t as bad as all that and were quite eager for me to listen to it (It was better than those worldly pop-songs, of course!)

  • Melody

    And you did get killed for doing good things, like saving the Ark of the Covenant from falling on the floor. (2 Samuel 6:6-7)

  • persephone

    Once again, we see the failing that results when no one studies history or context, or even the whole Bible, fixating, instead, just a few scriptures.

    Music was a part of worship. Joining in singing together was common. David danced before the Ark as it entered Jerusalem, and there was music being played and everyone singing. More verses, including verses referencing the apostles and Jesus singing:

    Jehovah’s Witnesses were big on hymns, but worldly music, i.e., anything with a beat, was considered evil and a doorway to Satan. I guess it’s kind of like Dune: you could sing, but you couldn’t do it rhythmically because it would attract sandworms/demons. The Society wrote all these articles on how disco music (yes, I’m that old) was really bad because of the way it sped up your heart and forced you to move to the music.

    As usual, if it might be enjoyable, it’s forbidden.

  • Mollywog

    I love most music. In other words, I do not censor in any way, what type of music I listen to. However, due to personal choice, you will not find me listening to most TuPac or NWA etc because it’s well, just plain icky to me. Misogynistic, not to mention, the language. There is no reason to have 2-3 foul words per sentence! And this coming from someone who’s most often used words on FB include damn.
    All that being said, when I was a teen, going to “youth rallies” which were mostly folk song type hymns, actually did make me feel closer to God. On the other hand, there are also Simon and Garfunkle songs and various classical songs that make me feel the same way. Just saying, if it makes you feel closer to God, it’s all good. And even though I no longer believe in organized religion, I do consider myself Christian. I find better peace and closeness to God in the woods and at the beach than I do in a church. Sorry for the length, obviously this hit home.

  • Nightshade

    Different strokes for different folks. 🙂

    Actually I do have one notable exception to my rule, Dear X by Disciple. Somehow ‘you don’t own me’ seems more appropriate to leaving fundamentalism than the original intent.

  • texassa

    Seriously, these people.

  • ShinyZubat

    Same. There’s only one Christian band I can listen to, which is Theocracy. It helps that they’re A) metal, B) tend to write interesting lyrics that actually tell a story, and C) are just really really really talented.

  • jennabobenna

    Your comment sums up my theology and philosophy quite well. I have eclectic taste in music. Sometimes K-Love is what I need to lift my spirits, but sometimes my Queen: Anthems playlist is a better fit. There are secular rock/pop/rap songs that invoke a more spiritual response in me than most contemporary Christian music. There are also Christian songs and hymns I can jam out to on a completely secular level. Ave Maria comes to mind.

  • Hannah

    I found a blog post detailing how my favourite rock band (Evanescence) aren’t a ‘Christian’ band (not that they ever claimed they were, and got quite upset when people tried to pin that label onto their music.) It was quite funny, the author also seemed to have missed the two albums they’d done since, as she was dissecting the lyrics from their first album which was released in 2003 in a post from 2012! (Most of those songs are about an abusive relationship and not religion, as she was claiming.) This is also the band that have saved my life on numerous occasions, so I say fie to her and her opinions.

    Oh, I must be doomed, I was muttering Nightwish lyrics to myself in church this morning! (Second favourite band.) I find a lot of peace in the music I listen to, sometimes I find it helps me validate my feelings. (Currently going through the death of my marriage, we’ve only been married for two years but I think it’s over.) If anyone wants me to link to the blog I’ll post it. 🙂 (And then outline where I think she’s talking bollocks.)