by Michael Pearl from No Greater Joy – Spank as a Last Resort
Editor’s note: This piece was written in the wake of several deaths of children who were abused, neglected and disciplined to death. In each home a copy of Michael Pearl’s ‘To Train Up A Child’ was found with law enforcement saying that the discipline outlined in the book may have played a part in the deaths of Hana Grace Williams and Lydia Shatz. These deaths brought unwanted public media attention to the abusive methods of the Pearls.
Sitting in front of the cameras, a media agitator asked, “Then is spanking a last resort?” I answered, “No, that sounds like it is an act of frustration, a desperate response to failure. Loving, thoughtful parents employ corporal discipline when it is the best tool to use to achieve character building in our children.”
This principle is not only lost on the progressive, but many Christian parents are also guilty of spanking “as a last resort.”
Keep in mind that our goal is to get the child to the place where he happily chooses the right course of action. So we engage in character training. When the child is part of a community of love and goodwill, his community impulse kicks in and he seeks to conform so as to be a part. He doesn’t want to be the odd man out, so he emulates the prevailing temperament. He sees that all of the rewards of life are obtained through peace and temperance.
Many children are generally stubborn and reject the fellowship of the community because they feel they have already been rejected, and they observe that the way to get what they want in the community is to gripe and complain and take it before any of the other selfish people do. You cannot spank that child into goodwill or a compliant spirit. You can use the rod to intimidate him or steer him to do what you want—as long as you are paying attention—but you will not reach his heart, you will only harden it.
QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.
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