by Sarah’s Daughter from the Sarah’s Daughter Blog – Competing Wives
Editor’s note: This is a really bad idea we’ve seen floated many times in the Quiverfull movement. Let the man take on any task he pleases and even if you have a PhD in that particular task you as the wife are never to open your mouth. Which is so wrong. Everyone has different talents and it really is wisdom if you have the person in the marriage that is talented in a certain area do that task. Offering help or suggestions is not being critical either! There’s no element of competition in doing what you are talented at.
Let’s take an everyday example into consideration. The wife is better at managing the bills and the finances. Her husband has decided that he needs to be the one who does this task. He isn’t as organized as she is and will, at times, be late in paying bills. She has suggested she could show him the methods she uses to keep everything organized but he’s not interested. What should she do?
She should spend her time learning what it means to not live in fear. She should keep quiet unless to ask if there is anything she can help with. If he says “no”, then without judging him, criticizing him, complaining or fretting, she should continue on without concern. She should pray for God’s help for her to learn how to maintain a “without a word” commitment and for Him to do His work in her husband. If the lights get turned off, she should light some candles. If the bank calls about the mortgage, she should take a message and without attitude, pass it on to her husband.
The actions are all pretty simple. That which will challenge her and will allow for tremendous spiritual growth on her part is truly walking out a non-judgmental attitude and spirit.
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