Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Does He Like Me Or Not?

Answering ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’ – Does He Like Me Or Not? November 30, 2016

AnsweringAnother installment of giving better answers to the questions asked at Debi Pearl’s site message board for the book ‘Preparing To Be A Help Meet’. Many young ladies ask questions on all sorts of different subjects brought up by the book. There was just one big problem, many of the answers stray into either the outright bad and emotionally unhealthy to dangerous. Yes, typical Debi Pearl borderline abusive. Here’s what we’re going to be doing here at NLQ. Every week, once or twice a week, I’ll be posting up one of the questions from the message board and ask you, our readers, to answer that poor soul’s question in a way that is logical,  rational and the best possible solution, in other words 180 degree turn from Debi and friends answers. As always all spelling and grammar in the posting is unchanged from the original author.

Does he like me or not?

Hi, my name is Amanda, I’m 17 years old and I am hoping for some help. I am a horse rider. I ride in English jumping shows. Earlier this year I was looking for a new horse and found one on craigslist. So when I went to go see the horse for the fist time, to my surprise the horse was owned by a very nice young man my age. After I bought his horse we did not talk very much. 4 months after I bought the horse, sadly my horsey died? I was very sad. I told the young man and he was the only person who help me out of my sadness. We now keep in touch and talk quit often. To my surprise we now show at the same horse shows. I really really like him, but he has shown NO signs of  liking me back. For all he knows is we are just friends. My family really likes him and jokes about us all the time, the weird thing is my whole family is often having dreams about him, and its quit weird.  I pray and dont know what God is saying, because if he is giving my whole family dreams about him, I thought “oh it means I will marry him” but he has not made any move yet, so are those dreams just silly dreams?  I would like to know what he thinks of me but know that asking him would make things weird if he feels nothing? This young man is very sweet and kind hearted. He is a very good friend and has very good manners, not like most of the rude guys these days, where you always have to watch out that they are not staring down your neck? I have always admired him and I have learned allot about horse shows and stuff from him. He is always willing to help me out when I need it. So what do I do? Does he like me or not?

This why the isolation of the fundamentalist/evangelical/quiverfull upbringing is such a hindrance to maturity and life in general. You never have the experiences of mixing with others, learning how to interact with the opposite sex, or are allowed to have a crush, leading to questions like this!

The usual crowd of commenters think that the most important thing to determine about this young man the writer is crushing on is if he is a believer. What would you advise this girl?

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