Quoting Quiverfull: The Happiness of Your Wife is Not Important?

Quoting Quiverfull: The Happiness of Your Wife is Not Important? November 4, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Larry Solomon from Biblical Gender Roles – Does the Bible Teach ‘Happy Wife, Happy Life’?

Editor’s note: The conclusion Larry comes to is if you do things to please your wife you are committing the sin of idolatry. It’s interesting that in the Quiverfull sub culture anything that leads to personal happiness for a woman is labeled a sin. It’s a life marked by frustration, unhappiness and never ending drudgery while pasting on a big old fake smile. That cannot be mentally healthy.

“Happy wife-Happy life” is neither wise, nor Biblical. In many ways “Happy wife-Happy life” is a form of idolatry, it makes a man’s wife’s desires the central focus of his life, taking his focus off God. Adam, the first man, listened to his wife when she asked him to eat from tree of the knowledge of good and evil, and we know that decision did not lead to a happy life for Adam. Samson listened to Delilah and it cost him his life. Solomon was led astray by his wives into idolatry.

Even if you do something for your wife, buy something for her, or make a decision that you believe will please your wife, it will only result in a temporary period of happiness. When the next time arrives that she needs something, or some life decision needs to be made (big or small), again her happiness will hinge on whether what you have done pleases her or not.

QUOTING QUIVERFULL is a regular feature of NLQ – we present the actual words of noted Quiverfull leaders, cultural enforcers and those that seek to keep women submitted to men and ask our readers: What do you think? Agree? Disagree? This is the place to state your opinion. Please, let’s keep it respectful – but at the same time, we encourage readers to examine the ideas of Quiverfull and Spiritual Abuse honestly and thoughtfully.

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  • Friend

    Way to be shallow, dude

  • Hannah

    Dear (urgh) Larry. First off, I want to get one thing straight. Eve was the brains of the operation, and also the one brave enough to take that step into mortality. If she hadn’t eaten of the fruit, none of us would be here and they’d still be hanging out in the garden of Eden. (If you believe they really were the first humans and that evolution didn’t happen.)
    Adam and Eve were given two rules, don’t eat the fruit from the tree of knowledge, and go forth and replenish the earth. They couldn’t do both, they were innocent like children. They needed knowledge in order to know how to make babies. So yeah, screw you, and not in the nice way. (Eve’s ‘fall’ has been used to subjugate women for centuries and I’m getting sick of it.)

  • Hannah

    This, Mother Eve, Mother of all humanity. Interestingly enough, in Islam Adam and Eve were both equally to blame for their transgression. The way Eve has been portrayed through the ages is deeply unfair and misogynistic.

  • Nightshade

    And according to the Bible she was deceived, Adam was not. If he did it in full knowledge when she did not, his sin should be worse than hers.

  • Allison the Great

    To be fair, being around Larry would make anyone very unhappy. Being married to this insufferable twat waffle? Un-fucking-bearable. Methinks this is just Larry boy knowing that nobody will ever like him and him just settling for what he can get.

  • Nightshade

    ‘…her happiness will hinge on whether what you have done pleases her or not.’ No, Larry-child, it does not, not for all of us. My happiness does not entirely hinge on what my man does anyway, I believe in having at least some life of my own, and he gets to have his too. And the part of my happiness that is connected to him is not dependent on him pleasing me in everything little thing he does, but on whether he cares about my happiness. Not the same thing! Clearly you don’t care about your wife’s happiness, so you’d never understand.

  • Nightshade

    Ain’t THAT the truth!

  • Astrin Ymris

    If it’s “idolatry” for a man to try to please his wife, how come it’s not idolatry to demand that a woman spend all her waking hours trying to please her husband?


  • Saraquill

    Making the wife happy is idolatry. Doing everything possible to make sure a married man and his penis are honored as divine avatars isn’t.

    Cognitive dissonance.

  • Anonyme
  • guest

    But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife. (1 Corinthians. 7:33).

    So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. (Ephesians 5:28-29)

    Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself (Eph. 5:33a)

    Does it get any clearer than that, Larry? Just in case, Jesus also said we should love our neighbor as we love ourselves and do unto others as we would have them do unto us. There’s no special clause exempting husbands from that behavior towards their wives.

    I don’t think you know what it’s like to love a person, Larry. In 1st Corinthians 13, Paul says that if you don’t have love, you are like a clanging cymbal, sounding brass, or… nothing.

  • guest

    Larry and that Dave who comments on Lori’s blog both believe that woman was made in the image of man, for the man, and is somehow “beneath” the man. I think that belief has made them blind to what the Bible actually has to say about human relationships between men and women.

  • Melody

    No, she was just property in Biblical times. Let’s go back to that! /snark.

  • guest

    Thank you!
    I saw that one too, and I saved it on my computer, in case it disappears. I want to post a reply thanking him for speaking truth.
    I get the feeling these men are losing sight of the truth that they were never given “the upper hand” and they don’t have the right to demand anything from their wives. Michael Pearl, Ken Alexander and Larry Solomon all seem to believe they are meant to rule in their homes and that they don’t have to treat their wives the way they would like to be treated.

  • guest

    Someone posted a thank you, and I posted one too. Now RG’s post is gone, along with the thank you reply.
    I guess it was too positive for Lori.

  • gimpi1

    Yet one more reason we’re all glad that none of us married Mr. Solomon. As if we needed more:-)

  • guest

    This only confirms that Lori and Ken aren’t interested in the truth. I saved RG Johnson’s reply. It was 100% Christian. All of it came straight from the Bible and brought balance to an otherwise very unbalanced thread.
    I don’t believe Lori and Ken have any business counseling married couples. They are teaching a travesty of what the Bible has to say about human relationships and marriage. In my opinion, their teaching doesn’t paint an accurate picture of Christ and the Church.
    It’S sad, but there’s not much else one can do about it. They’re too proud to listen to anyone who disagrees.