Quoting Quiverfull: Women Working Undermine Their Husband’s Masculinity?

Quoting Quiverfull: Women Working Undermine Their Husband’s Masculinity? December 6, 2016

quotingquiverfullby Nancy Campbell from Above Rubies – Why Do We Think We Know Better Than God?

Editor’s note: Nancy goes on from here to say that husbands are not in charge of the home. Only a woman can run the home. She also does not say what to do when you’re a righteous stay at home submitting mama. Or you have a brood of kids and a husband who refuses to work. Or what to do if your husband is ill, disabled or dead. Those are some strict gender roles there Nancy.

Often it can be very convenient for the father to stay home because the wife can get a better paying job. However, just because she can earn more, does that make it right? God created different roles for the male and female. He created women to be the nurturers, nourishers, and nest builders of the home and family. A father can do this to a certain extent, but not with same anointing as the mother. He created men to be providers and the Bible tells us that a man who does not provide for his family is worse than an infidel (1Timothy 5:8).

Often a husband finds it difficult to get work. However, when the wife takes over his role, she undermines his purpose as a man. We bless our husband when we embrace our role and don’t interfere with his role.

Society today blurs the roles and the differences God created in the man and woman. Both male and female are needed to reveal the image of God and we walk in God’s perfect plan when we embrace who God created us to be. It is easy to fall into the trap of living by “situational ethics.” We do what we think suits us the best and what is most convenient at the time. Situational ethics may work well in the situation, but it may not be the truth.

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  • Jo

    My dad is 82 and lives alone, mum is in a nursing home. He cooks, cleans and even cuts flowers to put in the house to make it look nice and he also goes into women’s clothes shops and buys my mum clothes . He is a pretty impressive guy!!!

    My husband is retired and at home, he cleans the house when I work (I am much younger than my husband). Didn’t know I had it all back-to-front!!!!!

  • Saraquill

    Is Campbell aware she named her magazine after a woman who goes on business trips?

  • KarenH

    masculinity in your circles appears to be a very fragile, delicate flower that bruises at the first sign of trouble. it’s a shame you don’t attract a better quality of manhood, Nancy.

  • Mirella222

    You need to sort out your priorities if you are willing to put the whole family in a precarious financial situation just so you can feel more “manly”.

  • Jennny

    Nancy has never met anyone living in the real world ever. For nearly all of us, it would never be possible to have 10+ kids. Here in the Uk, salaries, house sizes, the cost of utilities and daily living are such that 2 wages are needed to raise 2 children quite modestly and I’m sure that’s true of the greater part of the world. We don’t have access to several acres on which to build and live isolated QF lives and neither do we have mega churches to give us hand-outs because we are so spiritual we refuse to use birth control.. Less developed societies have lots of kids because, sadly some won’t survive to adulthood and a workforce is needed for subsistence farming and to look after parents when they are too old to work. Oh, then there’s the RC church of course contributing to the poverty of areas like the Philippines where it has many followers and too-large families.

  • Anonyme

    “Men and women have to stay within strict gender roles…but it doesn’t mean women aren’t equal to men!” always makes me think of “separate but equal”, a.k.a what Nancy and her ilk are saying is total B.S.

  • texassa

    My fiance and I met as adults. We both had college degrees, careers of our own, and homes of our own. I’m not adopting any role by being employed. I am continuing to be the grown-ass adult I’ve been for the last decade plus. My future husband does not need me to dedicate myself full time to cleaning, grocery shopping, and cooking. We share those chores together, and it’s not a full time job. If and when we have children we will make those decisions together when we get there. There are no “rules” for how to best live a life, navigate a marriage, or care for children. Working to provide financial income is something responsible adults do.

  • Julia Childress

    My nephew is married to a doctor and they have a one-year-old daughter. Mom stayed home for 6 months and then went back to work. Dad teaches two classes in biblical studies at a *gasp* Christian college, and otherwise stays home with the baby. He cleans, he cooks, he sings baby to sleep in his beautiful baritone. On Tuesdays and Thursdays while dad is in class, Grammy and Grandpa come over and spend uninterrupted time with their only grandchild. Wife comes home to dinner on the table, house clean, baby and hubby happy, and her parents grateful for being so active in their granddaughter’s life. WTH is wrong with this picture?

  • Hannah

    The situation in the UK is horrendous! Someone I know from church knows that I’m planning to divorce my husband. She can’t wait for me to be married to a nice Mormon man, and she said won’t it be lovely when you have children and can stay at home? Hahahaha, fuck that for a game of a soldiers. When I get divorced I might get married again, but as long as they’re a decent human bean I don’t give a fig what they believe in. This is a rather long winded way of saying that if I ever do have kids (which I don’t really like the idea of) I’m not giving up work. (This is the same person who is horrified at the idea of me working in a supermarket for the next few decades. I’m not giving up a perfectly good job just because some people look down on supermarket workers.)

  • guest

    It sounds beautiful to me. That baby is well loved, is surrounded by family, and has a stable home. What else could she ask for?

  • guest

    What’s wrong with working in a supermarket? Sheesh! It’s honest work!

  • Suzanne Harper Titkemeyer

    Yeah! No Kidding!!! I worked in on for six months and actually loved it compared to other positions I’d had that paid more and had more prestige. It’s a good job!

  • guest

    I worked in one one summer and enjoyed it a lot more than waiting tables.

  • Hannah

    I get to do that too! I work in the café in my local supermarket, it’s hard work, but I don’t have many qualifications, and I think it pays reasonably well. I also get a staff discount in said supermarket, and now another shop that this company has taken over. It also means I have skills (barista and food hygiene training) that are good to have.

  • Evelyn

    I do some retail work, among other things. I love it, because it isn’t difficult and it’s usually fairly relaxing. I’m not looking for what pays my bills to also be what feeds my soul. I get that elsewhere, and it suits me just fine.

  • Immerito

    In my neck of the woods, masculinity doesn’t involve sulking or growing limp at the sight of someone else’s strength.

    That’s very much a little boy reaction—-Johnny is stronger than Billy so Billy sulks because Johnny “won” a competition.

    If a grown “man” acts like 5 year old Billy; do not marry or procreate with him.

  • KarenH

    Not. One. Damn. Thing.

  • texassa

    Obviously everything is wrong with it. Your nephew’s wife is a selfish emasculating sin-vessel who ought to be baking cookies and cleaning house 24×7! Jesus cries giant tears seeing that vagined person choose to help others through healthcare work. Every time a woman goes to a job, an angel loses its wings. The baby will probably grow up to be gay.

  • paganheart

    That sounds like a friend of my sister’s I met over Thanksgiving. She’s a physical therapist who works full-time, while her husband, who is a teacher by profession, stays home with their five-year-old twins and does all the cooking, cleaning, childcare, etc. He does earn some money giving guitar and piano lessons on weekends and evenings, and they have plans for him to go back to school and earn a Master’s degree in music education once the kids are a little older and in school full-time. Their kids are incredibly sweet, happy and well-behaved, and they seem like a really happy couple. (Oh and BTW, they are Christians who are quite active in their church…admittedly a liberal Episcopal congregation that Nancy and her ilk would probably not even consider a “real” church…)

  • texcee

    My husband has a serious heart condition and hasn’t worked in 17 years. Any guesses who brings home the bacon? That’s right. He gets a Social Security check, but I’m the one who pays most of the bills and supports us. He does practically nothing but lay on his bed and watch TV. I’m too tired after a day’s work to cook and clean house, so my house is a wreck and we live on frozen dinners. We get by, but we’d be up sh** creek if I played the submissive stay-at-home wife and deferred everything to him.