In my last post, I started talking about the trend, particularly in privileged feminism, to pressure people into identifying as feminists. They will say things like “if you think women are human beings, then you ARE a feminist! End of story.” or “You don’t identify as a feminist? Don’t you think women are human? What’s wrong with you?” Yesterday, I told you that I’m not comfortable with this rhetoric because feminism isn’t perfect. Some marginalized people don’t want to put... Read more
In my time on the feminist internets, I often hear arguments for why EVERYONE should identify as a feminist. “If you think women are people, congrats, you’re a feminist!” “Quit saying ‘I’m not a feminist, but….’ You are a feminist!” Etc., etc., etc. There was a time, when I first became a feminist, when I would have shared quotes saying something similar. But lately, when I see these arguments trying to shame people into identifying as feminists, I get a... Read more
This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault Note: this research mainly focused on female rape. Though it is not the focus of my project, male rape is a huge problem as well–1 out of every 10 rape victims is male. I wanted to make it clear that, despite the focus of my study, it is not only women (and definitely not... Read more
I already shared my fun, geeky wedding vows. But if you’re interested in hearing our serious set of vows, here they are: In the name of the God of love and justice, I, _________, Take you, _________ to be my equal partner in marriage. I vow to love you and to affirm your humanity, As one made in the image of God. To actively nurture and care for you. To provide for and protect you. I vow to never abuse you,... Read more
As you might have noticed, my writing has been a bit non-existent as of late. That’s because I’ve been a bit busy planning a wedding, getting married, and now, going on my honeymoon. I may try to squeeze some blogging in, in between doing the things honeymooners do, but for now I just thought I’d take a couple of posts to share with you all the vows that Abe and I wrote together. Later this week, I’ll share our serious... Read more
In the months following my decision to leave fundamentalism for good, I began to shy away from the idea of God as a God of wrath. No, how could God be wrathful? God is love. God isn’t angry at us. God loves us. Maybe I was wrong. The wrath of God in fundamentalism is often used to talk about God sending little children to hell for taking a cookie out of the cookie jar. It’s often used to talk about how God was so... Read more
I’m going to start out by saying that I actually go to a church, and I actually enjoy it very much. This church does all kinds of social justice work in their community. It’s filled with kick ass people, and the sermons actually teach me something (which I never got in the “just read the Bible! Only liberals need theology. All you need to know is that you’re going to hell unless you say this little prayer” brand of Christianity). They... Read more
This post is part of a series called“You Are Not Your Own,” focusing on rape and sexual assault in Christian relationship/dating books Trigger Warning for rape, sexual assault Note: this research mainly focused on female rape. Though it is not the focus of my project, male rape is a huge problem as well–1 out of every 10 rape victims is male. I wanted to make it clear that, despite the focus of my study, it is not only women (and definitely not... Read more
Trigger Warning for Descriptions of Intimate Partner Violence, Sexual Assault, Self Injury, and Rape. I am angry. I mean, not right now. I’m actually fairly calmly sipping a lemon-berry shandy and chatting with my fiance about the use of F-bombs in Breaking Bad. I just mean in general. I get angry quite often, and I often hear things like “Why are you so angry?” I hate hearing things like this (in fact, thinking about them might be making me a little…angry).... Read more
I am of the opinion that love is more than just a warm, fuzzy feeling that you get when you look at that “special someone.” Warm, fuzzy feelings are often a part of love (and are often an important part of love because they can provide us with the energy for action). But it’s also important to talk about love as an action: the act of treating someone with care, with respect for their humanity, etc. Love is not just... Read more
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