There's nothing sacred in virginity

There's nothing sacred in virginity July 17, 2007

Would that we had a new agenda, a sexually-informed education system that truly empowered teens, that taught open-minded respect for bodies and flesh, pleasure and joy and physical/spiritual awareness.
Sure, include STDs and appropriate birth-control information, but not as a deterrent, not as some sort of nasty weapon of fear. Rather, arm your virgin daughters and inept sons with slick and giddy reverence for the joys of the flesh, for its potential to transform and ease tension and make you realize all is not so wrong and sinful and hateful with the world.
Would we not be utterly transformed? Would we not finally be free of the sneering, churlish mentality that somehow thinks virgins are dumb, immaculate prizes to be won? Let’s just say it: There is no sacredness in the virgin. There is only the fear, were she to be educated and empowered and really let loose, of what she could become.

– By Mark Morford, SF Gate Columnist. (See the full article here)

Morford’s piece preceded the case of 16-year-old Lydia Playfoot, who has just lost a discrimination case against her school, by just over a year, but the points he makes have particular relevance in the wake of the Playfoot saga.
Even more interesting is an expose of a key figure behind the Silver Ring Thing in the UK – professional virgin and right-wing Christian fanatic Denise Pfeiffer who was directly involved in bringing the franchise to the UK in 2004, at which time she was described as its ‘Assistant National Director’.
According to a piece entitled “Asexual Nazis for God?” on the Ministry of Truth website:

In 1994, a British-born Michael Jackson fan, Denise Pfeiffer, was charged with making obscene calls to the father of the boy who accused the pop star of molesting him. So far as can be ascertained, we are talking about the same Denise Pfeiffer here – she was deported after this incident.

Pfeiffer’s name again came to the fore in the anti-fascist newsletter, Red Leicester, which reported:

Leicester’s [gay] Mardi Gras event has been cancelled after Denise Pfeiffer, an ex-Mickey Mouse saleswoman, NF supporter, fanatical Michael Jackson fan (since he became white) and former model told them to beat it.
Denise Pfeiffer and the ‘Silent Majority’ tell us they are not homophobic, but are simply promoting family values. This is quite strange considering Denise Pfeiffer scaled a 8ft fence lined with spikes, entered a house and then proceeded to threaten the family of Jordy Chandler, who happens to be the boy Michael Jackson paid £15m after allegations of abuse.

With people like this involved in the Silver Ring Thing, it is absolutely right for schools to take a stand against crazy Christian cults such these.

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  • Android

    I don’t agree that the ring should be banned if jewellery itself is permitted. After all, kids wear all sort of things to symbolise all sorts of things, and it would merely be censorship to say thou shalt not wear the Silver Ring, of Thing fame. However, if banning jewellery is part of school dress policy – and whether it should or not is another argument – then it’s fair that the Silver Thing should be banned also. To allow or to ban it purely because it’s religious is missing the point that we value freedom of religion (though we’re not religious) because it’s freedom of expression, and that is important to us all.

  • Tony McMahon

    In the way that Searchlight magazine has done over the years, don’t atheists need to be a lot more forthright with the media in pointing out these links with dubious individuals and groups. Especially, and I speak as an ex-BBC journo, newsroom producers just rely on second hand info from newswires and websites these days.

  • Nickthelight

    Why would anyone want to wear a ring stating virginity? What about the day she turn’s up not wearing it – THE SLUT!

  • Barry Duke

    Oh get a grip, Iftikar. Chastity programmes have done nothing to reduce the high rates of teenage pregnancies that are such a problem in the UK and the USA in particular. Indeed, it has been shown that the many who drop out of such programmes are far more likely to engage in unprotected sex than those who avoid such programmes.
    The reason for our problems is obvious; there is a systematic failure in our education system to tackle sex education in a open and honest way. This is because far too many people of a religious bent are allowed to interfere in sex education, and are interested only in keeping children in a state of sexual stupidity. Islam is probably the worst offender in this regard.
    On the other hand countries which have successfully removed the odious influence of religion from their schools’ sexual education and other programmes not only have teenagers who are far happier and better educated than those in the UK and the USA, they also have a far lower incidence of teenage pregnancies, sexually-transmitted diseases, and drug and alcohol problems.
    I refer, of course, to the Scandinavian countries, and Holland, where the whole spectrum of human sexuality is routinely examined in the classrooms. It does not offend me to know that youngsters in those countries are introduced, in MIXED classrooms, and at a pretty early age, to condoms and how to use them.
    Indeed, it pleased me no end to learn that in some classes, children as young as 11 are taught how to slip a condom onto a penis with their mouths. (Cucumbers are used for the lesson).
    Also that homosexuality is in no way stigmatised, which allows gay youngsters to fulfill their sex lives as openly and proudly as anyone else – just as they should.
    If schools in this country were to follow these examples, without interference from religious ignoramuses, I am confident that we would quickly overcome the problems caused by the sheer ignorance we insist on foisting on children.

  • Let’s take alcohol as a parallel, Iftikar (not relevant to you as a Muslim, I know, but you’ll see what I mean in a moment). In Britain, we treat it as a taboo, so kids go out of their way to get rat-arsed at every opportunity. Result: binge drinking and alcohol-related crime. In some Continental countries, it’s treated as the norm, and a glass or two of wine is allowed to youngsters. Result: less binge drinking. The taboo is removed. Tell someone not to do something, and they’ll wonder why. Once they’ve wondered why, they’ll want to try it.
    Same with sex. As Barry Duke says in the comment above, good education is key. Yes, it’s a good thing to tell kids about the dangers of unprotected sex: possible disease, possible pregnancy (it’s not the case that “Abstinence is the only way to stay disease[-] and pregnan[cy-]free”, as you say: care and good education can achieve that, too).
    And what the hell are you doing dropping all that stuff about Muslim schools into this conversation? Anyone who’s seen any of your posts can tell you’ve got it on your clipboard and you’re just pasting it into blogs wherever you go. Stick to the points. But, since you raise the subject, Muslim schools – all religious schools – are an abomination, and lead only to further sectarianism. This is Britain. Get used to it. Your kids are British. If you want them to take on the trappings of another culture entirely, you know where the door is. Take them with you. We’d rather our Asian kids (and those of other foreign ancestry) were British and free to choose a religion, or not to have one at all, rather than compulsorily Muslim, whatever their ethnicity or colour.

  • Barnaby Rodriguez

    Surely the £10 for the ring would be better spent on contraception. After all how is a small piece of silver going to stop a drunken schoolgirl from becoming pregnant. It’s just another cynical U.S. exploitation of the hard-of-thinking.

  • jodie

    well i think that its a good thing becouse it puts off low dawn derty dogs men who are going now where in life and that would sleep with anything that moves and girls need to relize if u give out free milk no one will by the caw i am 19 year old virgin and i will never chang even when i am drunk i still look at the desprat boys up tawn trying to get with girls who i can tel a mile of that thay just wont to be left alone and the boy keeps beging like a bog sleep with a dog you will get up with fleez!

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  • John

    Some fake christians have Jesus and purity only in their words………
    Glory to Jesus and Mary.