US pastor who slammed Facebook admits to a having had a three-way relationship

US pastor who slammed Facebook admits to a having had a three-way relationship November 21, 2010

A NEW Jersey pastor who slammed Facebook as a “portal to infidelity” – and told married church leaders to delete their accounts or resign – has admitted to having a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male church assistant.
Yesterday the Rev Cedric Miller – the 48-year-old leader of Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township – confirmed that he given evidence in 2003 in a criminal case against the assistant involved in the Miller’s threesome. The relationship had ended by that time, and the case was eventually dismissed.

Rev Miller and his wife Kim
Miller hit the headlines this week when he issued his Facebook edict. He said it came about because much of the marital counselling he has performed over the past year and a half has concerned infidelity that stemmed from the social network site.
He claimed that Facebook ignites old passions and ordering about 50 married church officials to delete their accounts with the social networking site or resign from their leadership positions. He had previously asked married congregants to share their login information with their spouses and now plans to suggest that they give up Facebook altogether.

I’ve been in extended counselling with couples with marital problems because of Facebook for the last year and a half. What happens is someone from yesterday surfaces, it leads to conversations and there have been physical meet-ups. The temptation is just too great.

One parishioner, Pat Dawson, a minister at the church, uses her Facebook account to see photos of her relatives. She is unmarried and therefore not required to delete her account, but she agrees with Miller about the dangers such sites can create.

I know he feels very strongly about this. It can be a useful tool, but it also can cause great problems in a relationship.

The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers says 81 percent of its members have used or been faced with evidence plucked from Facebook, MySpace, Twitter and other social networking sites in divorce cases over the last five years.
About one in five adults uses Facebook for flirting, according to a 2008 report by the Pew Internet and American Life Project. And a do-it-yourself divorce site in the United Kingdom, Divorce-Online, reported late last year that the word “Facebook” was appearing in about one in five of the petitions it was handling.
Hat tip: Alan & Barriejohn

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  • tony e

    I’ve come to the conclusion that religion will never be beaten by the likes of us atheists. The good news, however, is that they will do the job themselves. Does a day go by without them shooting themselves in the foot?
    For pillar of the community/family man/charitable; read fraud/sexual hypocrite/crook.

  • barriejohn

    Most unusual, isn’t it?

  • sailor1031

    Is this what the babble means when it says people should become like little children?

  • Broga

    Nice picture of Rev Cedric and his wife though. Kind of thing he could put on his christmas cards. His best plan is to blame it all on the devil, he was misled, he has repented, he is now not washed but swimming in the blood of the lamb, he is a better man for the experience and a better pastor for understanding the powers of the legions of Satan. Not too long before he is forgiven and promoted.
    Way to go Cedric. Surrounded by religious dumbfucks you will be out of this mess in no time.

  • Alan
  • mikespeir

    That list is far from complete, Alan. Where’s Finis Jennings Dake of Dake’s Annotated Reference Bible fame? (Wikipedia: In 1937, he was convicted of violating the Mann Act by willfully transporting 16-year-old Emma Barelli across the Wisconsin state line “for the purpose of debauchery and other immoral practices.”) Where’s John Hagee? (Divorced his wife so he could marry the woman in his congregation he was having an affair with.)
    There are a lot of lesser names, of course, that are missing.

  • barriejohn

    It’s those pesky demons again, Broga! He didn’t want to do it, but they forced him!!

  • barriejohn

    There are a few more listed here (financial miscreants though) – notably Kenneth Copeland, Creflo Dollar (Oh, how I love that name!), and our old friend Benny Hinn!!
    http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prosperity_gospel
    Still, you can’t say that The Gospel didn’t bring prosperity to THEM!

  • He ordered all his married officials to delete their accounts or resign? Typical fundie mentality; if they themselves can’t view or use something without being led astray, shocked, etc, then all those who probably can mustn’t even have the option.

  • AngieRS

    Pot meet kettle I think.

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  • Daz

    It gets better. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/northamerica/usa/8149809/Pastor-who-said-Facebook-was-portal-to-infidelity-had-four-way-relationship.html
    All consenting adults it seems, so no harm in the actual act, but the hypocrisy is awesome. Not to mention the idea of ‘don’t blame the broken marriage, blame facebook’. Ho-hum.
    OT, but some here might find this interesting or amusing: http://blessedatheist.com/2010/11/21/of-christian-jackasses-and-bob-hutton-a-tragicomedy-in-one-part/

  • Daz

    “Your comment is awaiting moderation.”
    Is this because of it containing two links? It’s happened to me twice now.

  • barriejohn

    Daz: I thought that had all finished now!
    (Tip: DON’T add a link to a comment via Edit – post a new comment!!)

  • Daz

    DON’T add a link to a comment via Edit
    I didn’t, they were both added before I submitted (so to speak). Both times it’s happened have been when I’ve included two links. Maybe a filter ’cause trolls tend to do a lot of ‘look at this it proves what I say’ links to evangelical sites and such?
    Ah well, no harm done. Thanks Barrie.

  • Wow! That was quick.

  • Daz

    David McNerney:
    Oddly, that’s what both of the ladies involved said of the good Reverend…

  • Carasek

    George Carlin said it best:
    “In the Bullshit Department, a businessman can’t hold a candle to a clergyman. ‘Cause I gotta tell you the truth, folks. When it comes to bullshit, big-time, major league bullshit, you have to stand in awe of the all-time champion of false promises and exaggerated claims: religion. No contest. No contest. Religion. Religion easily has the greatest bullshit story ever told.
    Think about it. Religion has actually convinced people that there’s an invisible man — living in the sky — who watches everything you do, every minute of every day. And the invisible man has a special list of ten things he does not want you to do. And if you do any of these ten things, he has a special place, full of fire and smoke and burning and torture and anguish, where he will send you to live and suffer and burn and choke and scream and cry forever and ever ’til the end of time!
    But He loves you.
    He loves you, and He needs money! He always needs money! He’s all-powerful, all-perfect, all-knowing, and all-wise, somehow just can’t handle money! Religion takes in billions of dollars, they pay no taxes, and they always need a little more. Now, you talk about a good bullshit story. Holy Shit!”
    http://www.positiveatheism.org/hist/quotes/carlin.htm

  • Daz

    Louis Jordan also said it quite well…
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FmEtJ1gLVTk
    Damn, cleaned up version! In the original the Deacon’s the one who ‘consoles’ everyone’s wives.

  • Stonyground

    I may have mentioned this before but at my workplace we are allowed to use the internet during lunchbreaks but the computer system has a childlock on it to stop us looking at anything that we shouldn’t. Just occasionally the comment thread on a freethinker article gets me a ‘You have tried to access a resricted website’ message and I can’t work out why. It happened on this one and I had to wait till I got home to read it.

  • Daz

    Stonyground:
    Could it be the use of the word ‘threesome’ in the story?

  • Stonyground

    The main article is never blocked, only the comments.