'Educator' in hot water after dishing up sex waffle to kids

'Educator' in hot water after dishing up sex waffle to kids March 24, 2017

Sex educator Shelly Donahue, above, will never again get to address youngsters at Jenks Public Schools in Oklahoma after her faith-based advice sparked outrage among students.
According to this report, Donahue, who is “passionately committed to Jesus Christ as the ultimate answer to the teen sexual activity problem in America“, recently gave a talk that was “demeaning” to girls and “belittled” broken families.
One Jenks High School senior posted on Facebook demanding an explanation for the presentation from Shelly Donahue, who was contracted to speak in an assembly with the school’s entire senior class.

Brooklyn Wilson
In the post, which has been shared more than 800 times, Brooklyn Wilson, right, revealed that Donahue asked her audience:

Do you know why girls are so desperate and always text guys first? Two words: Daddy. left.

Said an angry Wilson:

How dare our school allow a statement so demeaning to girls and so belittling of broken families to be presented to a class of such impressionable and already insecure seniors. Daddy leaving is a life changing and heartbreaking situation, but to stereotype and undermine girls by calling them ‘desperate’ for having the confidence to text a guy first is SO OUT OF LINE.

The intent of the assembly was to fulfill a state requirement to share information with students about HIV and AIDS, said Rob Loeber, a spokesman for the school district.
It was Jenks’ first time to contract with Donahue, and the agreement was that she would give an educational presentation about AIDS, Loeber said.
High school administrators spoke to Donahue about the content of her presentation before the assembly, Loeber said

But unfortunately, some of the content and the tone of the presentation did not meet the expectations of JHS administrators.

In another Facebook post, Wilson shared a photo of a slide from the presentation that reads

Sexually speaking: men are like microwaves; women are like crock pots.

She added in that post that the presentation was run by a Christian organisation, which she called an inappropriate and “ignorant violation” of students’ varying beliefs.
Loeber said that although Donahue’s website indicates that she presents a Christian-based programme:

There is also mention of a specific secular programme which can be implemented for use at public schools. She gave assurances to our administrators that her presentation would be secular, not religious. Regrettably, she did not adhere to those standards. Some of her comments strayed outside the realm of sex education or AIDS education. Those statements certainly would not be echoed or endorsed by Jenks Public Schools. Because of those misrepresentations, Ms. Donahue will not be asked to return.

Wilson wrote on Facebook that the sex education presentation was, “as usual,” based around the idea of abstinence, which she called:

An unrealistic and ineffective approach to teaching safe sex.

Loeber said Oklahoma statutes dictate that any school that provides sex education must ensure that one of its primary purposes shall be to educate students on the practice of abstinence.
Wilson added that she was

Genuinely so upset and let down by a school I gave my trust and faith to.

Hermant Mehta, The Friendly Atheist, lambasted the school authorities for inviting this Christian imbecile:

There’s simply no excuse for the administrators here. Donahue never hid her ignorance from the public. They saw her website, full of myths and inaccuracies and stereotypes, and invited her anyway.

What the hell were they thinking? How did they not know?!
The administrators didn’t just waste students’ time. They paid for a speaker who perpetuated false, harmful information about sex at a time in these students’ lives when evidence-based information is exactly what they need to hear.
The statements by Rob Loeber suggest that Donahue lied to them. That she misrepresented her intentions. That the talk she gave was different from the talk she said she would give.
That’s just not true. I can’t believe I’m defending her here, but Donahue made very clear what she was going to talk about ahead of time. Christians gonna Christian.
The reality is that the administrators, having all this information at their disposal, invited Donahue despite all the glaring red flags.
Who’s taking responsibility for this? Where’s the apology from the District? What steps are they taking to prevent this from ever happening again?
I’ve filed an open records request with the District to see if we can pinpoint who invited her and why. There’s no shortage of excellent speakers on this subject, yet the school invited someone patently unqualified. People in the community, included the students, deserve to know why.

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  • translation: we want you to be outraged at this so we made that really really obvious and made sure we sounded like an overemotional teenager while we typed this out.
    Yeah. Don’t say anything about the underlying problem, as this might actually bring everyone together to fight this sort of thing. Sure. Okay.

  • 1859

    I would love to know how – by what conceivably contorted thinking – sex, jesus and a waffle are connected? Mind you, when it comes to religion anything is possible…

  • barriejohn

    It’s great to see more and more American students speaking out against the sort of thing that at one time went completely unchallenged in that “Christian Nation”.
    Shelly Donahue = Safely half-nude whole

  • barriejohn

    It’s all over YouTube:
    Comment: I was a A student and sex had absolutely no affect on my grades. To imply that girls aren’t good at mathematics is disgusting . What an idiot.
    And where is her evidence for this much-vaunted “spiritual aspect” to everything under the sun?

  • barriejohn

    Mike: I think I can see what you’re driving at, but it’s the job of educators to deal with education in personal relationships, or whatever, not those with their own agenda. You said on another thread that we don’t want theocracy bullshit!

  • Stuart H.

    It’s not just US schools. We need to look out for it in UK too.
    For example, my local high school ‘contracted’ a Pentecostal pastor to give obligatory talks on relationships to 15 year olds, rather than look for someone qualified or suitable.
    This cretin has only a rudimentary education and no teaching experience. He didn’t even study theology, and only got his church job when his predecessor was finally put away for sex with underage girls.
    In addition, he’s so unhinged he actually got banned from the local chip shop after haranguing some poor girl who got pregnant (courtesy of one of his Sunday school students who couldn’t keep his trousers zipped).
    I put up with a certain amount of small town stupidity in return for not having to send my kid to school in a stab vest, but some days…..!

  • barriejohn

    Stuart H: I was thinking along the same lines. When I was a boy, the Plymouth Brethren funded an outfit called Counties Evangelistic Work, the aim of which was to provide an evangelist with tent and caravan for each county of Great Britain, and they, in their turn, would visit small villages, beaches, etc, holding missions mainly during the summer. How times have changed! Now they conduct school assemblies, teach RE (though mainly without educational qualifications), and visit schools with all sorts of “educational” displays and presentations. A lot of money, time and effort goes into all this, and they crow about their success in “reaching the young for Christ”. I know from my own experience that many teachers enter the profession because they are Christians and want to “influence” coming generations, and I can only assume that the open doors that these evangelists find are due to this fact (Brethren can be trusted on Biblical inspiration and the other fundamentals of evangelical belief – they only differ on church practice). I’m sure that many parents are oblivious to what is going on, and quite happy to hear that their kids visited a “cool” exhibition about the History of the Bible, for instance, with no clue as to what is really going!

  • barriejohn

    Our Shell’s website (link above) is hilarious:
    At 6’3”, Shelly Donahue speaks with authority.
    Wow – height restrictions for teachers, then! And I see that it’s littered with Biblical references rather than references to the findings of sociologists, psychologists, and other experts. Typical – “The answer’s in the Bible”. TALL stores, more like.

  • This is a nationwide problem. Christian organizations are in public schools teaching their morality-based, unscientific abstinence-only sex ed all over the United States. In St. Louis, MO, we are currently fighting this fight against Thrive, a Christian anti-abortion group with crisis pregnancy centers (fake pregnancy clinics), who enter public schools to teach a very similar sex ed to what this woman, Shelly Donahue, taught at Jenks. Thrive’s program is called “Best Choice.” Here are some news stories about our fight in the St. Louis area against Thrive “Best Choice”: http://www.riverfronttimes.com/newsblog/2017/03/13/thrive-sex-ed-program-draws-ire-over-shame-based-curriculum-secrecy

  • Shelley Kapach

    I have a grandmother who is a pentacostal Christian, and she is just as closed minded as Ms.Donohue. “Do as I say, not as I do. Let me quote a crapload of Bible verses to back myself up”. She would never listen to rational debates, and when I quoted relevent Bible verses counter to hers, she would begin to have “chest pains”. I’m terrible, I know. But I won’t be bullied regarding religion-I was my entire childhood!

  • barriejohn
  • Laura Roberts

    @SallyHunt: “Christian organizations are in public schools teaching their morality-based, unscientific abstinence-only sex ed all over the United States.” To be more accurate, it is what they delude themselves into thinking is morality-driven; but precisely because it is based on faith, i.e., lies presented as facts, it is inherently immoral.

  • barriejohn

    Laura: That’s a good point. The argument that they use is that God created us, and God gave us the Bible, therefore to be perfectly happy and successful in life we must accept and follow what the Bible says because it is our “Maker’s Manual”. I heard that time and time again, but it obviously overlooks the fact that “Biblical morality” is only the morality imposed upon the book by those who read it. They “interpret” the book according to their ideas (just as they cherry-pick any statistics, etc), and that becomes what God commands.
    Man needs guidance or instructions in how to live his life. It’s like many of the gifts our children receive for their birthdays or other occasions. Special instructions are included to aid the parent in the assembly and operation of the toy. Without some type of instruction, many toys would be useless. Likewise, without instruction from our creator our life on this earth would be totally useless, without any real value.
    The Bible gives us full and complete instruction in how to live our life here on the earth in preparation of an eternal life with the Father in heaven.

    I don’t know where the blackbirds nesting in our Berberis got their instructions, but they seem to have done a very good job again!

  • StephenJP

    I have been a school governor, in a CofE school, working with a tough and sceptical head teacher, and I can tell you that any cult offering this sort of nonsense would have been given the bum’s rush pretty quickly
    Sally Hunt,what rights do your school principals have to tell the likes of Thrive just to f**k off? Are they obliged to let them proselytise on school premises? Do parents have a voice? If Thrive tried that here in the UK, some of the parents I know would have an injunction on them before they could move.

  • Novlangue

    The usual freethinker objection to free thought, including silly free thought. Obviously high school stewnts must be wrapped in cotton wool.

  • barriejohn

    Novlangue: She’s free to think what she wants, and even teach the same in her church as far as I am concerned, but not to indoctrinate students in a public school!