I have been going out dressed in mostly what would traditionally be labeled female clothing for a couple months now. I feel most myself when I’m wearing some leggings, a cute long shirt or top, and some super cute shoes. Add some jewelry, a multitude of makeup products, and a couple different hair products and I’m ready for a night out on the town or a day out shopping with a friend.
Within the last couple of months, it’s really given me a different understanding of a quite a few things that I now have a more personal insight on, here are just a few of them.
Women’s sections are quite the spectacle to navigate.
For all you men out there, trust me, the complaints of issues with finding clothing is not just some outlandish complaint. It’s a potentially horrific reality and while I love shopping so it isn’t the worst thing to me, I can see how it can cause less avid shoppers to not want to even bother with it at all.
For starters, no brand will ever fit the same as another. Not only is this in regards to the arbitrary pant/shirt sizes they use which mean different things to different companies, but even in the styles. A low rise slim fit jean may fit/mean one thing to one brand and something completely different to another. Finding something you like in the size that will actually fit you is like finding the answer to eliminating religious extremist, exhausting and potentially morally questionable what must be done to achieve such things.
Another difficulty is that as a larger man, I am almost always going to be going to the “plus” sections. However, when I’m in that same store, I just go to the regular men’s section (men’s sections don’t even have “plus size” parts to them) and grab a large/xl shirt and call it a day. Many plus items aren’t even available in store and must be ordered online only. Not to mention the limited styling of much of it compared to the “regular” sizes.
So, from one man to another man, give her all the time she needs because it’s no simple task for any size of woman.
There’s a reason they’re called “Makeup Artists”
It truly is an art like no other. Starting with the canvas, aka your skin, which must be scrubbed and cleansed. As well as moisturized on a regular basis to achieve the “desired” looks for most. Then on top of that comes the large array of makeup products used to create your desired look and one that lasts the whole day preferably. Primer, foundation, concealer, setting powder, bronzer, contour, highlighter, eyebrow color, eyelid primer, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara, and setting spray.
To put it simply, sometimes it really does take THAT long to look THAT good. It’s an art like no other and one that can have a pretty discouraging learning curve. THE thing that helped me most was watching lots and lots of YouTube tutorials and not being afraid to ask questions. The adventure of learning and getting better at makeup truly has given me a confidence I’ve never experienced. It’s not just about making your face look different.
ALL of this to say:
Sometimes, you have to literally walk a mile in someone else’s ‘heels’, to truly understand what they go through better. The higher the heel, the better! It could be life changing for yourself and for the people living life around you. Empathy is something we could all have a little more of in troubling times such as these.