December 2, 2018

Transparent Expedition as a title was not only a clever play on words, but it was also designed to allow for writing about other matters. Today, I will be speaking on matters of personal pain. I do need to warn you that it is graphic, raw and likely full of triggers. Some have suggested, out of concern for me, that I not write this publically. They are afraid of stigma being associated to me robbing me of opportunities. If someone… Read more

November 12, 2018

Preface on Perspective I will no longer be referring to my child as my son or using he him pronouns. Dave has informed me that the correct pronouns are they and them. They have offered me a new perspective. Nothing has changed other than what I know of them. My child is now, and always will be, the same amazing spirit they have always been. I have been “preaching” about parents and adults with a general reluctance and excuses that… Read more

November 5, 2018

One October morning I woke up at 5 am to get ready for work. I stumbled to the coffee machine and checked my phone. An associate sent me a message that read, “Hi, did you know that your blog was recently discussed by Dr. William Lane Craig?” I no longer needed the coffee. This is a Christian Apologist and philosopher who has debated the likes of  Sam Harris and Christopher Hitchens. On the train on my way to work I reached out to friends of… Read more

October 23, 2018

Many of you have probably read or heard about the October 21st New York Times Article in which Trump and the Department of Health and Human Services are spearheading an effort to narrowly define gender as the genitals one is born with. In a Reuters article released on October 22, Trump says he is doing this to “protect the country”. We need to call this what it is. This is an attempt at genocide. Many people think of genocide as the eradication… Read more

October 16, 2018

A few months ago Tonic published an article. Researchers asked cis people if they would date trans people. The summary is unfortunate. Most wouldn’t. But they fantasize about having sex with transgender and genderqueer people. This love denied with a dash of privileged objectification is myopic, dangerous, and sad. Sad for the cisgender people who have no idea what they are missing. In one of my TransParenting 101 Lessons (Lesson Xxx) I told a story: One day my son and… Read more

October 1, 2018

The world has watched and reacted to Christine Ford and Brett Kavanaugh.  Those who shame victims question why they, and Christine Ford, do not come out sooner. I’m offering three stories from my Christian days that  may help others understand. The church and society have failed victims and continue to do so. One story took place in the 80’s, the same decade as Ford’s incident. The second was in the early 90’s. Finally, the third story is in this decade. I hope you… Read more

September 7, 2018

On January 15 of 2018, Dolores O’Riordan was found dead in a hotel room. When it first happened there was a lot of gossip and speculation about the cause of death. On September 6th, BBC News reported the coroner ruled it an alcohol related accidental drowning. This story has been important to me, as has been her inspiration. Due to not only my appreciation of Dolores O’Riordan and her art (I’m a fan), but the parallels of being victims of abuse,… Read more

September 4, 2018

  On Friday, August 31st, 2018, many in attendance at Greater Grace Temple in Detroit, Michigan may have witnessed sexual assault by Bishop Charles Ellis III. This potential sexual assault occurred during Aretha Franklin’s funeral that he officiated. The possible victim is entertainer Ariana Grande who performed a song honoring the deceased. This event was live streamed. Photos and videos of Bishop Ellis’ hand and fingers making contact with Ariana Grande’s breast have gone viral. She appears to try to… Read more

August 27, 2018

In the wake of being featured in a podcast last month, I found myself being contacted by The Clergy Project for the third time over the same thing. Criticizing it. This group dedicated to helping ministers and ex ministers who have lost their faith does good work. Like any group it is not for everyone. It is also not perfect. There is nothing wrong with that. But it is a little creepy that three times I have said something negative… Read more

August 22, 2018

In 2014 I took my son to his first Otakon. He was meeting some friends he had only known on the internet. For the first time ever he wore a name badge with his name on it. Dave. He was fully identifying as male with no shadows or hiding. He was completely himself while surrounded by cosplayers who did not care, and yet, they celebrated everything and everyone. The main entrance hall was full of cosplayers and people wearing t-shirts… Read more

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