December 27, 2018

Transgender people are disgusting abominations who should have no rights in Trump’s America! This was the overriding theme in the comments by conservative Christians in response to ABC Chicago News’ coverage about me and my child. The cruelty, crassness and utter disregard for human decency by many of the Christian conservatives that commented on the story about me and my child on ABC are no longer shocking. But this just got personal. I am not going to give them the… Read more

December 20, 2018

I’m not the right person to tell my child’s story. I learned that when I heard the right person tell Dave’s story yesterday. That person was Dave. Dave had a team behind him. Who was that team? ABC News Chicago. Watch this: How Did This Story Come to Light? While I have been in the hospital dealing with depression I have not been getting paid. So for a few extra bucks I did a story for Chicago Unheard. It was essentially… Read more

December 14, 2018

Inspired by the openness Dolores O’Riordan  had about her depression I have written openly about my struggles and my discoveries along the road to wellness. I’ve recently learned that in trying to avoid the Dunning-Kruger Effect, I have fallen into Impostor Syndrome. Not only that, but shame of the past has allowed me to get into my own way. My child accidentally helped me discover this. While in this therapy process, I am not being paid. This is now week 4 without a… Read more

December 10, 2018

As I am going through one of the darkest struggles of depression and PTSD in my life, I am reminded of something Fred Rogers said about times of trouble. “There was something my mother did that I’ve always remembered: “Always look for the helpers,” she’d tell me. “There’s always someone who is trying to help.” I did, and I came to see that the world is full of doctors and nurses, police and firemen, volunteers, neighbors and friends who are… Read more

December 2, 2018

Transparent Expedition as a title was not only a clever play on words, but it was also designed to allow for writing about other matters. Today, I will be speaking on matters of personal pain. I do need to warn you that it is graphic, raw and likely full of triggers. Some have suggested, out of concern for me, that I not write this publically. They are afraid of stigma being associated to me robbing me of opportunities. If someone… Read more

November 12, 2018

Preface on Perspective I will no longer be referring to my child as my son or using he him pronouns. Dave has informed me that the correct pronouns are they and them. They have offered me a new perspective. Nothing has changed other than what I know of them. My child is now, and always will be, the same amazing spirit they have always been. I have been “preaching” about parents and adults with a general reluctance and excuses that… Read more

November 5, 2018

One October morning I woke up at 5 am to get ready for work. I stumbled to the coffee machine and checked my phone. An associate sent me a message that read, “Hi, did you know that your blog was recently discussed by Dr. William Lane Craig?” I no longer needed the coffee. This is a Christian Apologist and philosopher who has debated the likes of  Sam Harris and Christopher Hitchens. On the train on my way to work I reached out to friends of… Read more

October 23, 2018

Many of you have probably read or heard about the October 21st New York Times Article in which Trump and the Department of Health and Human Services are spearheading an effort to narrowly define gender as the genitals one is born with. In a Reuters article released on October 22, Trump says he is doing this to “protect the country”. We need to call this what it is. This is an attempt at genocide. Many people think of genocide as the eradication… Read more

October 16, 2018

A few months ago Tonic published an article. Researchers asked cis people if they would date trans people. The summary is unfortunate. Most wouldn’t. But they fantasize about having sex with transgender and genderqueer people. This love denied with a dash of privileged objectification is myopic, dangerous, and sad. Sad for the cisgender people who have no idea what they are missing. In one of my TransParenting 101 Lessons (Lesson Xxx) I told a story: One day my son and… Read more

October 1, 2018

The world has watched and reacted to Christine Ford and Brett Kavanaugh.  Those who shame victims question why they, and Christine Ford, do not come out sooner. I’m offering three stories from my Christian days that  may help others understand. The church and society have failed victims and continue to do so. One story took place in the 80’s, the same decade as Ford’s incident. The second was in the early 90’s. Finally, the third story is in this decade. I hope you… Read more




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