I bought a box of teddy grahams.

I bought a box of teddy grahams. April 7, 2014

And I did so because of this commercial:

A gay couple?  Raising well-adjusted kids just like every major psychological body says they do?  Whoa, now that’s edgy.

And an interracial couple?  Being portrayed as wholesome and stable in the melting pot of America?  Way to push the envelope.

Reading the youtube comments on that video quickly re-awoke my cynicism though.  Joel Varela gave us this gem:

Couldn’t watch this all the way through… My dog started barfing. Brace yourselves society… It’s coming… Pedophilia in the name of love. Whoever thinks this is a silly notion needs to to a serious history lesson on the Greek and Roman empires.

Somehow Joel sees two consenting adults and his mind goes to pedophilia.  How would that strike us in any other context?  Does this dude see two people shaking hands and say “It’s coming: homicide in the name of friendly gestures!”?

Joel Varela seems to introduce ideas into a situation that aren’t, in any way, present.  I wonder if someone says “Hi” to Joel when he gets to the office and he responds “I don’t enjoy dressing up like a toddler and getting my ass spanked!”  The two are about as related as consenting adults smooching and fucking a child.  Hell, when you think about it, the Vatican has more to do with raping kids than monogamous, consenting gay adults, and Joel doesn’t seem to be too interested in them.

And as for the Greek and Roman empires comment, every society, successful or not, has had gay people – because LGBT people are part of humanity, just like people with brown eyes.  Can Joel show how, even though “The primary dichotomy of ancient Roman sexuality was active/dominant/masculine and passive/submissive/”feminized”.  Roman society was patriarchal, and the freeborn male citizen possessed political liberty (libertas) and the right to rule both himself and those of his household (familia),” in Rome some men were allowed to have sex with men under certain conditions, that this affected their economy or politics at all?

I’m guessing not, but since he’s unaware that correlation does not equal causation he thinks he’s making a swell point.  Hey, I saw somebody trip the other day while wearing a red jacket.  Maybe we all need a lesson on the affect of red jackets on coordination.

i dont give a fuck if you are gay
but you cant raise baby without a MOM

This is especially news to two groups.  The first is single (straight) dads.  Would this person be ok with a single gay dude raising a kid?  Or how about two moms?  Probably not.  Would they be ok with a single straight dad raising a kid?  I’d wager they would.  This all conspires to reveal an objection that is pretty disingenuous.

The other group to whom this commenter’s announcement would be new is every major body of psychological experts in the civilized world.

American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry, Facts for Families: Children with Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Parents (2011): ”Current research shows that children with gay and lesbian parents do not differ from children with heterosexual parents in their emotional development or in their relationships with peers and adults. It is the quality of the parent/child relationship and not the parent’s sexual orientation that has an effect on a child’s development.”

American Psychological Association, Policy Statement on Sexual Orientation, Parents, and Children (2004): “There is no scientific evidence that parenting effectiveness is related to parental sexual orientation: Lesbian and gay parents are as likely as heterosexual parents to provide supportive and healthy environments for their children.”

American Psychological Association, Lesbian and Gay Parenting (2005): “[T]here is no evidence to suggest that lesbian women or gay men are unfit to be parents or that psychosocial development among children of lesbian women or gay men is compromised relative to that among offspring of heterosexual parents. Not a single study has found children of lesbian or gay parents to be disadvantaged in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents. Indeed, the evidence to date suggests that home environments provided by lesbian and gay parents are as likely as those provided by heterosexual parents to support and enable children’s psychosocial growth.”

There are plenty more, but you get the gist.

But the happy ending to this story is that amid all the negativity, Honey Maid held firm – they even took all the negativity and dissolved it with the application of love.

I don’t ever buy snacks, so I don’t ever buy Honey Maid products.  This month I will make an exception.  I encourage you to follow suit.  🙂

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