Keep It Simple: Reflections On Mary And Martha From Luke 10:38-42

Lectionary Reflections Luke 10:38-42 July 21, 2013

It's Thursday night and I'm having company Saturday night. It's our daughter Rebecca's birthday and family members are coming to celebrate. We'll have a total of thirteen people to welcome and feed. When I have company coming, I have an automatic transmission that kicks into Martha gear. I like to have everything in order. I've gotten much better over the years. I used to feel I had to clean out the garage and alphabetize my spices before anyone came through the front door. I have gotten over that. But I still need to make sure the fridge is clean, the carpet in the family room vacuumed, the kitchen floor mopped, the bathroom rugs freshly washed, the front window wiped clean of spots and grime, the grit cleared out of the utensil drawer, and the patio swept, and the flagstone scrubbed clean of all the bird droppings.

And then there is the food. My husband, Murry, an excellent cook, helps with the main course, but I still have three bean salad to make, corn on the cob to shuck, rolls to bake, and a chocolate refrigerator pie to put together (the kind with the graham cracker crust and chocolate pudding filling). I also need to wrap the gifts we're giving Rebecca for her birthday. I need to check to make sure I have ribbons that match the birthday wrapping paper. There is a lot to do between now and when my company comes. I don't really have time to be writing this column.

My daughter knows me. She called earlier today and said, "Keep it simple. We'll all bring something. We want to spend time with you, not have you wait on us."

In this week's familiar scripture passage, Martha is having Jesus over for dinner. She wants everything to be perfect. She wants the meal to be one he'll always remember. Not just because she's a perfectionist, though she may be, but because hospitality is a bedrock value in first-century Palestinian village life. It is a point of honor for families and villages to welcome guests and offer them the best the home has to offer. She wants to treat Jesus the way she thinks he deserves to be treated as an honored guest.

We meet Martha and Mary here and also in John 11 where these sisters of Lazarus are involved in the account of Lazarus's death and resurrection by Jesus. In these accounts Martha comes across as a practical, blunt person, while Mary is more unconventional and contemplative. The sisters' division of labor here in Luke 10:38-42 mirrors John 12 where Martha is the one who serves the meal while Mary focuses on giving Jesus an extravagant anointing (Marshall, 452). Martha seems to be the go-to hostess in the home, the decision maker in the household. It may be that she was a widow (Marshall, 451). She "welcomed Jesus into her home" (Lk. 10:38) but then her attention became distracted (v. 40, in the Greek "pulled away") from Jesus by her multiple duties (Marshall, 452).

Martha and Mary's dinner party for Jesus comes right after the Parable of the Good Samaritan in the flow of Luke's gospel. Perhaps Luke's aim was to affirm the importance of prayer and worship, having just commended practical action. Immediately following this story Jesus teaches his disciples to pray and recommends persistence in prayer.

I don't read this story as Jesus elevating one aspect of the life of discipleship over another, discounting the need for outer preparations and exclusively commending the inward life. In his remarks to Martha (v. 41) he is not chastising her for making preparations. He is suggesting she focus on the purpose of those preparations and therefore simplify them. In Eugene H. Peterson's The Message, Jesus says: "Martha, dear Martha, you're fussing far too much and getting yourself worked up over nothing. One thing only is essential, and Mary has chosen it—it's the main course, and won't be taken from her."

In his commendation of Mary (v. 42) he is not elevating her over her sister. He is affirming the legitimacy of focusing on the role of a student of scripture. To affirm a woman in this role is something most Jewish teachers of his time did not favor. Mary sits at Jesus' feet as Paul sat at Gamaliel's feet. We are to spend quality time with Jesus whenever we have the chance.

I identify with Martha more than Mary in this passage. Maybe because I've heard too many sermons that elevate the contemplative life over the life of action, that urge us to be Mary and not Martha. But let's be practical. What's a family meal without the meal? What's a dinner party without the dinner? When you invite people over for dinner, you are making a promise that you will provide appetizing food for them.

With the basic goal of making people feel welcome and serving them an appetizing meal in mind, however, we need to keep focused on the purpose of the dinner and the needs of the guest. We are, like Martha, to welcome Jesus into our home. But we are to tailor the event to the identity and preferences of our honored guest. He is the Son of Man who came not to be served but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many (Mk. 10:45).

There is something in this story for all temperaments and tendencies. We could read it as a story that commends not allowing service to distract us from prayer and study. We could also, coming to Martha's defense, remember that we are not to use prayer and study as a free pass to avoid service. When both are focused on Jesus, they interact and mutually energize one another. Like family members working together to welcome one another and to prepare a meal together.

We serve Jesus by spending time with him. We serve him by treating him in the manner he deserves to be treated as an honored guest. That means focusing on him and doing his will in this world. That is the "main course" that the Martha and the Mary within our own selves and community work together to prepare.

"Keep it simple. We want to spend time with you, not have you wait on us."

I take my daughter's comments seriously. They don't mean that I prepare any less carefully. I just keep my preparations focused on the goal of the gathering and I keep it a little simpler so I'm not distracted while she and the family are in my home. That way I can focus on listening to them and enjoying their company. That is the way to treat honored guests.

Sources Consulted

Howard Marshall, The New International Greek Commentary on Luke.

Stephanie Frey, "Living with Martha," The Christian Century , July 13, 2004.

Keep It Simple: Reflections on Mary and Martha from Luke 10:38-42