Drop Tart Tone

Feeling a little sour? The Practice: Drop tart tone. Why?Tone matters.I remember times I felt frazzled or aggravated and then said something with an edge to it that just wasn't necessary or useful. Sometimes it was the words themselves: such as absolutes like "never" or always," or over-the-top phrases like "you're such a flake" or "that was stupid." More often it was the intonation in my voice, a harsh vibe or look, interrupting, or a certain intensity in my body. However I did … [Read more...]

Lower the Pressure

Is it truly urgent? The Practice: Lower the pressure. Why?Things come at us with so much urgency and demand these days. Phones ring, texts buzz, emails pile up, new balls have to be juggled, work days lengthen and move into evenings and weekends, traffic gets denser, financial demands feel like a knife at the neck, ads and news clamor for attention, push push push PUSH.On top of these external pressures, we deal with internal ones as well. These include all the inner "shoulds," … [Read more...]

See Beings Not Bodies

What happens when you look at someone? The Practice: See beings, not bodies. Why?When we encounter someone, usually the mind automatically slots the person into a category: man, woman, your friend Tom, the kid next door, etc. Watch this happen in your own mind as you meet or talk with a co-worker, salesclerk, or family member.In effect, the mind summarizes and simplifies tons of details into a single thing - a human thing to be sure, but one with an umbrella label that makes it … [Read more...]


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