A couple of nights ago, Christopher pulled out Maria’s first tooth. It has been wiggly for several weeks now, and when she came out of her room after bedtime complaining that her tooth hurt, Christopher said matter-of-factly, “I’ll pull it out for you, Maria, but I’m not going to stop until it’s out. Even if it hurts a little bit, I’m going to get it out for you, okay?” And then he did what my husband and I have been trying to do for over a week: he got a paper towel and pulled out her first tooth. Maria let out a squeal of delight and gave her brother a big hug. “Thank you so much,” she gasped. “You’re welcome, Maria, you were very brave,” he responded. My heart just about melted.
You see, it hasn’t always been this way between my two oldest kids, who are boy-girl and three-and-a-half years apart in age. There were times when I worried that they would never be friends, that they would never have anything in common, and that they would never enjoy each other’s company. There was a special period of a few months when Maria was a sweet baby, and 3 year-old Christopher just loved holding his new baby sister and making her laugh. As soon as she became an opinionated baby who cried a lot and stole his toys, however, things went downhill and stayed that way for a little while.
Recently, however, I have witnessed many other moments of shared fun, and it makes me so happy to know that they are enjoying the blessing of sibling friendship. They are joking with each other, playing Pokemon, catching worms, and building with Legos. A couple of months ago, when Maria first started school, she told us at the dinner table that she knew who she was going to marry. “Pete,” she said matter-of-factly, “he’s the one.” Christopher responded, “Maria, don’t you want to meet some other people first?” To which she said, “No, I’m good.” We couldn’t stop laughing.
So, here’s to sibling friendship, with all of its ups and downs. Mary, Queen of Families, pray for us!