Sancti-Tea and the next 18 years

I recently went next door after my kiddos were tucked into bed to return a laundry basket. The sweet mom next door began regaling me with the schedules of her two boys,  5 and 8, their extracurriculars, multiple sports, etc., and I could feel myself getting overwhelmed and stressed out for her. To sum it all up, she said, "It's only 18 years, right?" All I could could think to say in the moment was, "Enjoy them while they are young!!"I mean in no way to cast judgement on her or her obviously … [Read more...]

A Dress

I found myself at a shopping mall recently on my way to the airport for the first (and probably last) time in a very long time and I saw this dress and thought it was so very cute. Now I am not a fashionista (a good chunk of my wardrobe is still from high school) and I am not even particularly fond of shopping, because it eats into weekend time. So I had to really think for a few minutes about why this dress briefly caught my eye. And then it dawned on looks just like a sling across the … [Read more...]

Harvard Grad Pursues her Vocation

Did you read the interview at National Review with Mary Anne Marks, who delivered the 2010 commencement address at Harvard in Latin?Here is an excerpt (and conversation that I believe all of the builders have had in one form or another--more on this in another post in the coming weeks):KATHRYN JEAN LOPEZ: You are a Harvard graduate. Aren’t you surrendering all the possibilities that entails by entering a convent?MARY ANNE MARKS: Yes, if one doesn’t see becoming a well-educated, int … [Read more...]

A Meal to Write Home About?

At dinner tonight Dash , our 5 year old, exclaimed, "You HAVE to make this meal for Daddy to show him what a good cook you are and how smart your brain is!!"Let me qualify that by saying that when Mr. Incredible is out of town, as he is this weekend, we tend to lower some standards, especially around meal time. Usually we do a breakfast of scrambled eggs and pancakes for dinner. Tonight, after a rough day, even that seemed to require a Herculean effort. So I put some shredded cheese and canned … [Read more...]

A New Melody

When I went to seek solace in Bach's Cello Suites this morning, which we listen to almost daily, I was horrified to find them gone from my iPod and an emergency check on the computer showed them missing from my iTunes account. Our old computer died over a month ago and in the transfer of everything from the old to the new we appear to have lost some stuff. My boys have become accustomed to the strains of the cello, and the music seems to calm our sensory integration disorder child. In fact, for a … [Read more...]

Happy Birthday Mr. Incredible!

Dear Mr. Incredible,On Monday morning, you got the kids up and fed them breakfast while I laid in bed. When I finally dragged myself out, you were surely late for work, but didn’t say a word about that or the fact that I forgot to wish you happy birthday.When you called to see how things were going in the afternoon, instead of saying a cheerful, “Happy Birthday, my love,” I said, “The baby threw up and I can barely stand, can you come home?”And you said, “I’m on my way.”When you got home … [Read more...]

A Little More on Abandonment…

From today's meditation from In Conversation with God:So many people have their own plans for their own wellbeing that only too often they look on God simply as someone who will help them to carry out those same plans. The true state of affairs is quite the opposite. God has his own plans for our happiness, and He is waiting for us to help him accomplish them - and let us be quite clear about it: we cannot improve on God's plans....He arranges everything in such a way as to make detachment … [Read more...]

Family Read-Aloud Time

I have a totally unrealistic dream. I imagine me sitting in a chair with an enchanting, living book in hand reading to my three sweet boys who are playing or drawing peacefully and quietly, attentive to the beautiful story, absorbing its language and its richness. I'm sure my husband is laughing across cyberspace quipping to himself, "Maybe I should introduce her to our children."I  would love to establish a family read aloud time for longer chapter books, but my attempts thus far have failed … [Read more...]

Summer Strategies

Since snow days are rare in Texas, we don't have the winter cabin fever like some of our friends further North. But when summer hits, it can be brutal. We are instituting some new routines and incentives around here to help us order our summer days.We try to go to our neighborhood pool early (8am) to beat some of the intense sun, but by the time everyone is splashed out we still have several hours until lunch. In an effort to minimize friction between our sensory child and the others, we are … [Read more...]

Can’t Be Outdone By B-Mama…

Special Ed graduation...the hats were too cute!! And, yes, I cried, too, B-Mama!! These boys are just too sweet! … [Read more...]