Complementary But Equal: Women in Orthodoxy

I don’t understand the full teaching of how Orthodoxy understands the role of women in the church. However, let me restate that this blog is about what I am learning and practicing in a very new way for me to understand “church” and Christianity as a whole. How women are viewed is an important issue and I have only begun to look at the questions much less come up with answers. I figured now is as good of a time as any given that Rachel Held Evans is entertaining a discussion this week. This is my own digestion of what I know so far in my Orthodox journey.

I know that Orthodoxy only ordains men to the priesthood. I come from a tradition in the Presbyterian Church (USA) that does ordain women so I know all of the arguments in support of that practice. I also know the arguments supporting a patriarchal priesthood. Arguments are often vehement on both sides so this is not an apologetic. While I don’t wish an argument ensue, if you want to argue about that below, be kind and respectful.

I am not arguing the fine point here of priesthood here. What I do want to present is what I have digested so far regarding the role of Orthodox women in the life of the church. The basic understanding is complementary but equal.

The dichotomy between egalitarianism and complementarianism is perhaps too rigid from the Eastern Orthodox view. In fact, some of it is against the moral teaching of the church. The idea that social roles are rigidly prescribed is present in the tradition for some, but is not present for others. These two terms require balance. This is true of the roles within the church. In continuation from the Jewish Temple males were responsible for the priesthood. It was a natural fit to continue through Byzantine imperialism as a function of apostolic succession.

When the church rapidly expanded the diaconate took on a far more important role. These men and women were responsible for representing the bishop to Christians and offering the sanctified Eucharist – the high regard for this task cannot be stressed enough – among other important duties. They also fulfilled all other roles that that pastors fulfill today such as visiting shut-ins, caring for the sick, teaching the Scriptures and so forth. It is a fair argument to say that the Church would not have survived if it was not for the important role that women played fulfilled.

When you walk into an Orthodox church it is clear that women are revered along with men in the sainthood. The largest image and most prayed to saint isMary Theotokos Mary the mother of God or Theotokos. That cannot be emphasized enough and was lost in the movement of Western Protestantism along with the primacy of all the other saints in the life of the church. She is the first Christian. She is the first person to carry God inside of her. She is the image of how all of humankind ought to respond to God in submission – not just women but also men. More than this as the Mother of God, she is also the spiritual Mother of all those who follow Christ. She looks over the church as a mother to her children. Further, honor and veneration are given equally among female saints such as St. Mary of Egypt who is the patron saint of penitents and St. Junia who we see in the icon above that is also on Held Evans’ site this week.

So what is the role of Orthodox women today? While it is clear that while there are always going to be those who will stick with their social and cultural roles as fixed absolutes, it is simply not the case elsewhere. While there are clear roles to fulfill in the family (e.g., men cannot have babies unless through a radical surgical process), they do not translate into fixed social roles (e.g., women serve men and should “stay in the kitchen”). That kind of “complementarianism” is disdainful and demeans the nature of women as image-bearers of God. The context is of mutual obedience to one another.

The kind of complementarianism as Held Evans presents (“In the home, men lovingly are to lead their wives and family as women intelligently are to submit to the leadership of their husbands.”) is a distortion of how the roles of women and men ought really to work. As Archbishop Chrysostomos writes:

Shame, hence, to each of us who proclaims either the man or the woman superior, or pretends to know the proper role and nature of each. This is arrogance , immoderation, intellectual pomposity, and the usurpation of judgments which only God can make. In true spirituality, distinctions, both formal and informal, disappear. This is not to say that we should, in any way, allow our social responsibilities to go unheeded in the name of human freedom and illusory, worldly liberty. Certainly we must not in any sense feel akin to movements which threaten social and spiritual order. But neither should we decide that there are clear offices and stations in life which, gleaned from an improper understanding of the spiritual world, absolutely fix the role of any person, whether Lord or serf, freeman or slave, man or woman.

Further, such fixed roles can be the consequence of sin itself. As Katherine Hyde writes:

(W)e have a picture of God’s intention for men and women—a relationship of loving cooperation between two people equal in value and honor, but differing in roles. And we have a picture of that rela­tionship perverted by sin: women bound by their own desire and their need for children to men who wrongfully domi­nate and belittle them. But in that very hour when God pronounced the fate of fallen woman, he also pronounced her hope: the Seed that would bruise Satan’s head.

Like any Christian family you will not find absolute agreement among Orthodox here even though things may seem homogeneous to an outsider. That was at least the view I had for a long time. But the distinction between the two poles of complementarian and egalitarian as presented simply don’t work in the Orthodox world, or at least the one in which I now live. Are men and women complementary? Yes. But they are complementary insofar as together they can work to help conform to the likeness of God. The same is true for men and women without partners.

Unilateral submission of one by the other is sinful and is not in anyway something that God would have us practice in a world He has redeemed.

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  • Nadia

    As a woman, I sometimes share the sentiment of unfairness (as it seems to me) of the fact that I can never be anything more than a Sunday school teacher. However, I then ask myself – does that impair my way to God in any way? I think not. This certainly puts me in a humble position. But when I think about it, it seems to me that if I resent humility, that means there is something wrong with me. Indeed, our purpose in this world is to become closer to God. What is more desirable to that end than a position of humility? Only in that position can I know whether the sin of pride possesses me or not. And I think I should thank God for putting me in this position and thereby protecting me from falling into pride by way of such constant reminder. In addition, if men are allowed such a wonderful opportunity as to be priests, would I not only feel joy for them? What is it the matter if I cannot do the same? do I really need to? The fact is – we Are different. A man, no matter how much he wants, cannot experience motherhood, cannot feel the way we feel, nor can he ever become a woman (our soul is as much feminine as our body, he can never change the soul and receive the wonderful natural gifts we women receive from God). Would I even equal these gifts with a possibility of priesthood? A priest preaches to the church; but it is his mother who preaches him. Theotokos – Mother of God! What can be more marvelous? We are all blessed through her. And for that, we get admiration of men – do we really want to change it?
    What is equality? Is one star “equal” to the other? is Mars equal to Venus? Is a cat “equal” to a dog? is an oak “equal” to a maple tree? should the oak be offended that we don’t make “oak syrup?” We are all different, and we all have our unique qualities and gifts. It seems that where there is love, there simply is no place for a question of equality (indeed, this very notion became necessary because of the evil ways of our society). I do wish, however, that there were some more application for my intellect in Church; but maybe it’s up to us women to, say, organize various societies, write books, issue newspapers – no one prevents us from that, do they?