# XI Commandment… (God and All That For Your Kids)

XI: Never forget that passing on life literacy goes for passing on the hope only spirituality offers. So you have doubts! Big deal! Join the club! So you’ve moved on and “grew past” your grandparents’ “simple faith.” Let me tell you their faith wasn’t so simple!

You’re still grateful for the sense of belonging you experienced in your childhood. You still remember being held in loving arms. Sincerity is an overrated virtue. Just because you’re not so sure about God anymore — if you’re old enough to read this , unless you’ve become an idiot you will doubt God’s existence at least some of the time. That doesn’t mean that you can’t pass on what you were given in the secure cocoon of your childhood.

The comfort of the spiritual routines and the contemplative inner life you experienced connected you to a mystery that will remain after you see through the credulous embrace of mythology.

Finding hope in paradox is the point, not your faith or lack of it.

When it comes to your children leave out the things that drove you crazy about the form of spiritual journey your parents launched you on if you want to, but you can still acknowledge the beneficent gift that life is.

You can still take your children to church if you feel that the spiritual life you shared shaped you in good ways. Know this: you’ll never arrive at a conclusion . Life is defined by changing our minds.

So don’t wait for certainty before you do anything about faith for your kids. Don’t rob your children of comfort just because of your doubts.

As your child grows share your doubts, and tell the truth about your loss of faith if and when it happens. And because life is a journey faith may also rekindle from the most unlikely sources and in the oddest times.

Don’t think your child can get to where you got to in your journey by beginning their life of faith where you may to end yours.

(to be continued in this space tomorrow…)

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Frank Schaeffer is a writer and author of Crazy for God: How I Grew Up as One of the Elect, Helped Found the Religious Right, and Lived to Take All (or Almost All) of It Back .

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About Frank Schaeffer

Frank Schaeffer is an American author, film director, screenwriter and public speaker. He is the son of the late theologian and author Francis Schaeffer. He became a Hollywood film director and author, writing several internationally acclaimed novels including And God Said, "Billy!" as well as the Calvin Becker Trilogy depicting life in a fundamentalist mission home-- Portofino, Zermatt, and Saving Grandma.

  • http://patheos Threeten2yuma

    Jesus, Frank! You never listen to me, do you?

    [This is too funny! I tried to post the brief comment above, and I got back an error message that read: "There was an error posting your comment. Maybe it was too short?" I'm not making this up. We'll see now if my cyber-critic accepts this posting. Here goes nothin'! -3:10]

  • http://Patheos threeten2yuma

    Assuming that this post isn’t “too short,” as well, here are some songs about Jesus from my favorite dead poet theologian that are worthy, in my estimation, of some serious consideration.

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  • http://Patheos threeten2yuma

    For your extensive readership, Frank, unless of course it’s just me, in which case I’m talking to myself again, I commend An Arrow Pointing To Heaven, the beautiful biography of Rich Mullins, my favorite dead poet theologian, that was written by Rich’s friend, James Bryan Smith. It’s a well-researched and thoughtfully-written book that should be “a must read” for anyone interested in Mullins, or Jesus, or Christianity, or life in general. The book is best appreciated if one has a familiarity with Mullins’ great contemporary Christian music.

    Ever since his seemingly-untimely death in an auto accident fifteen years ago, I’ve occasionally wondered to myself, “Why did God kill Rich Mullins?” Then listening to the intense longing in Mullins’ lyrics, especially on the posthumously-released Jesus Record, I came to realize that God didn’t “kill” Rich Mullins. Rather, He gave him his heart’s desire.

    But deeply longing to see Jesus is not the same thing as having a death wish. Mullins loved life as much as he did the Giver of Life, I think . . . and what a life he lived! Maybe not since Francis of Assisi, has a single, solitary mere human being pointed us toward Heaven while so much loving this Earth and its many, many inhabitants. Smith’s book beautifully describes his friend, Rich Mullins, and this simple saint’s journey of faith.


  • Brother Nelson


    This single blog entry is bursting at the seams with a weight and depth of wisdom and experience that speaks to an entire generation of disenfranchised believers !

    If you were to expound on everything here, you would have a best selling book, my friend !

    Please write it for us !!!