Everything Happens For A Reason

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I saw this in a collection of “unmotivational” posters, and thought it was worth commenting on. While I personally will not punch anyone in the face, and wish to discourage others from doing so, I think this shows the problem with the trite statement that “it was/wasn’t meant to be.” It ignores the complexities of life and the reality that sometimes something clearly happened, or was prevented from happening, by the kind or unkind action of one or more other human beings. Or to put it another way, if you say “everything happens for a reason,” the reason someone punches you may be the fact that you offered the trite comment that “everything happens for a reason,” and not something deeper than that.

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  • paulpeter

    agree totally but, sometimes, when i hear it, i think it means something else and im just not sure i can grasp it. Ever happen to you?

    • http://www.patheos.com/blogs/exploringourmatrix/ James F. McGrath

      Can you rephrase your question? I honestly have no idea what you are asking.

  • http://timebottle.weebly.com/ Beau Quilter

    My friend had a kid applying to colleges a few years ago. One of the religious universities had sent an admissions brochure with a picture of a road sign pointing to the school and the words “Looking for a Sign?” across the top of the page.

  • http://dagobah.net/flash/udonge.swf Necrofantasia

    The one that’s even worse – the one that always makes my blood boil – is “Happiness is a choice.”

    • Melinda Arlette Pace-Padfield

      Yep! Happiness is a choice unless your brain has a chemical imbalance. That one annoys me, too.

      • http://dagobah.net/flash/udonge.swf Necrofantasia

        I always want to ask whether or not the people who were dying in Nazi concentration camps should have just chosen to be happy. I want to tell them to attend the funeral of a child who died and tell that child’s parents to choose to be happy.

        It’s even worse than “It was meant to be!” because it’s victim-blaming. “You’re suffering? You’re in a terrible situation? You’re being abused or victimized? Just choose to be happy!” It’s utterly, utterly vile.