Traveling With Children

When Ezra was two and Zach was three, we went to a squatter’s village in Mexico and, working with the people living there, we cleaned the school each morning for a week.   While the poverty of the village – the living conditions, the prospects of its residents, all of those awful malnourished dogs running everywhere – weighed heavily on me, my kids felt no such burden.  They couldn’t believe how awesome the place was.  There were crazy dogs running wild, kids running barefoot and playing for hours in dirt.  And then there were all of those super cool houses made from old tires and corrugated steel.

I was disheartened that the boys didn’t seem to notice the difference between home and this village whose school had no electricity, no running water, and virtually no classroom supplies.  They thought everything in Las Palmas was just swell.

“Why are you here?” asked Kathryn, the woman leading our trip, when I explained to her my dismay over the boys’ attitudes.

I realized that I had no idea why we were there.  To help?  That was ridiculous.  We would have been more help if we stayed at home and donated the money we spent on the trip to an organization that provides small loans to people.  To teach my kids about poverty?  That seemed creepy, and it clearly wouldn’t have worked anyway. Why were we there?

Zach and Ezra playing with children in Las Palmas (seen above)

Luckily, Katherine answered her own question.  “You are here to make friends, and to help your children make friends, with people with whom you could not normally make friends.  You want your children to be comfortable in the homes of their friends here, and to welcome their friends to your home some day if possible.  You want your children to pray for their friends here and to ask your friends here to pray for you and your struggles at home.  You are here to make friends.”

(Wherever you are, Kathryn, thank you.)

We returned twice more to be with our friends in that village in Mexico. Then in 2010, we went to China for a monthlong mission project with an underground church there.  Last year, we came to Costa Rica for a two-week vacation.  And we are currently in Costa Rica for three-months as part of Jeff’s sabbatical.  As clueless as I was during that first trip, I actually know a thing or two now about traveling with children overseas and for extended periods of time.

For the next couple of weeks, I’ll share some of that with you in a series of posts. They will not contain helpful, practical tips.  For that, there are better resources.  Call your doctor about vaccines; check out the State Department website for important travel information; make sure you’ve packed everything by consulting a universal packing list; and type the following into Google: What do I need to know about traveling to _____?

Instead of practical help, and in no particular order, I’ll write about my top ten tips for traveling overseas with children:

  1. Stay somewhere with a pool.
  2. Maintain both a home base and at least a few of your rituals from home.
  3. Remember that your kids will be just as wonderful and rotten as they are at home.  So will you.
  4. Go with a purpose.
  5. Your kids won’t give a hoot about your purpose.
  6. Do less.  Of everything. Except sleep.
  7. Make a scrapbook.
  8. Make friends with a local.
  9. Leave the technology at home.
  10. “Roll with it.”

Check back in Monday through Friday for the next two weeks to read more about each tip. And be sure to share some of what you’ve learned in your travels as well.  In the meantime, Pura Vida!

  • Lisa

    PURELL!

    • Tara Edelschick

      Ha! I love it.

  • http://BluePetroglyph.wordpress.com Donna_In_Ohio

    Tara,

    My family just got back from three months in Guatemala. My kids are 10 and 11, and normally go to out-of-home school. The kids and I blogged about it. For the kids’ blogs, I considered it part of their schooling: a game of 20 questions (what did you do today? what was the best part? what do you think your friends back home would find most interesting? etc) one day, followed by spelling and grammar corrections another day, followed by sentence ordering and polishing. (But not too much polishing, as I did not want them to feel too pushed or overwhelmed or like it wasn’t in their own words.) We were also taking Spanish lessons in the mornings, but the local Guatemalan schools were on vacation.

    You might especially enjoy the kids’ blogs:
    Anna (age 11) http://GoAnnaMia.wordpress.com
    Carl (age 10) http://Carks.wordpress.com

    As for my blog, I still think of it as in progress, though we have been home a month already; I do mean to finish a few more of those stories. The entry I think you might most enjoy, as one that points up what the freedom to explore can do for kids’ confidence and comfort in the world is this one:
    http://bluepetroglyph.wordpress.com/2012/01/25/temple-iv-and-the-jungle-moon-of-yavin-4/

    Enjoy Costa Rica!
    Donna

    • Tara Edelschick

      Donna,

      What great posts! Thank you for sharing.


CLOSE | X

HIDE | X