What I Wish I’d Known When I Was a Young Mama

Ah, how exciting. All these years of writing and blogging and today I get to write the post that's been on my mind since 2002... Because, when I was a young mama, this is the kind of stuff I needed...another mom, a bit further down the mothering road than I was, but not so far that she'd forgotten what foods a one-year-old will choke on and, related, how to do the baby Heimlich.While normally I like to give principles and not prescriptions, today I'm going to be taking a break from that … [Read more...]

Parenting in that ‘Just Right’ Place

(I'm continuing my series of workbook-type posts for each story in my book...Today's is Goldilocks and The Three Bears, where we have two opposite mamas, Softie Mama, and Harsh Mama and are learning to mother in between the two). *** Are you more like Softie Mama or like Harsh Mama? For those of you who fall in that ‘just right’ place, congratulations and, pray tell, what is your secret?As we’ve seen, mothering on the poles is easy to do. Those of us with Type-A personalities are usually th … [Read more...]

‘Bastard’ and Other Things This Mama No Longer Worries About

The offense? Stolen Buffalo/Ranch Doritos. The culprit? A brother, off on a trip with his dad."You bastard!" other brother yells.He was hungry and, thus, the epitaph, shot through the iPhone, three hundred miles away.There was a day, not so many years ago, when such brotherly communication would pull me up short. I'd jump in with scripture, with quotes from The Peacemaker, with maternal admonishments and threats to suds up a washcloth.Today...not so much.Perhaps it's one of … [Read more...]

Parenting Your Younger Kids: Slacking Off or Getting Wiser?

If you are raising younger kids alongside older kids you probably hear this twice a week: "Why do you let Jonny (fill-in-the-blank)? I never got to (fill-in-the-blank) when I was his age!"Or, "Are you going to get Jonny get away with that? If I had done that at his age, you would have whooped me good!"Or, "Why are you letting Jonny watch (this movie)? When I was Jonny's age, you NEVER would have let me watch (this movie)"What is a parent with one foot in the teenager world and one … [Read more...]

The Little Mama That Could

(I've been blogging my way through my new book, Humpty Dumpty Just Needed a Nap: What Children's Stories Teach Us About Life, Love, and Mothering. Last week we started with the first vignette in the book about Winnie-the-Pooh and being the kind of Hundred Acre mamas we were made to be. This week, we're chugging right along to The Little Engine That Could...which is about staying the course on our mothering marathon when the blisters start, but, better yet, how to avoid them in the first place. … [Read more...]

Which Hundred Acre Mama Are You?

(Hi, Mamas...now that my book is out, I'm going to be doing something fun for those of you who have a copy. I'm going to be blogging my way through the book a couple times a week by writing 'workbook' posts for each vignette. If you read my previous post, you heard about the importance of having a big, fat, 'mama journal,' for all things motherly. Now's the time to pull it out and get scribbling. Don't feel pressured to answer all of these questions or chewing points, just pick one of two that … [Read more...]