Ambiguous Grief, Mourning Living Parents

Ambiguous Grief, Mourning Living Parents June 3, 2021

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This first appeared in the Spring 2021 issue of Witchology Magazine, which can be found here.

When I sat down to write something for Witchology, I knew the right thing was to write about grief, death, and all those things that I’m about (I’m told I have a brand, which makes me feel like off-brand cola); but instead, I found myself fixated on the fact that this articles last relevant breaths will be taken as we stumble into those parts of the year when social media platforms will be rife with memes, advertisements, and proclamations for parents of the world; Mothers Day, and Fathers Day.

Truly, my vote is for the “Guardians Day” proposed by the Toronto Stars Emma Teitel, who suggests it be celebrated on any day you choose in honor of “a mom, a dad, a non-binary parent, a grandparent, an aunt, an uncle, a pet owner, or (even) somebody who takes really good care of (their) houseplants.”

And so it was for this reason that I chose to share with you a term I picked up while studying Mortuary Science: ambiguous grief, a type of grief grounded in losses without boundaries, without closure. Losses that defy definition.

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