3 Reasons DEMANDS AND THREATS are Killing Your Marriage

3.  It creates a toxic dynamic between a husband and wife.

When we give each other demands and threats, we fall into a toxic “tit-for-tat” game that neither of us can win.  Scenarios such as, “I’ll have sex with you only after you do THIS,” or “If you don’t do THIS, I’m leaving you.”  This negative dynamic leads to score-keeping and unrealistic expectations–both of which are marriage-killers.  

So, what are we supposed to do INSTEAD of ultimatums?

We talk.  We break down the walls by being honest and transparent with one another.  We get help when we need it.  We seek forgiveness, and we accept apologies to allow trust to be rebuilt.

We work through it.

We do whatever it takes to get back on the same page of love and respect for one another.  And, we see each day together as an amazing opportunity to strengthen our marriage and family.

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