Are you Married in real life, yet Single Online?

http://gty.im/144147600

2.  Don’t seek out your old flames or “friend/follow” them on social media.

This may seem harmless, but again, we are opening ourselves up to old feelings and a walk down memory lane that has the potential to hurt our marriage.  This behavior disrespects our spouse and misleads the old flame, and it blurs the lines of healthy boundaries that must be in place when we are married.   

A good rule of thumb whenever we are searching for a certain person on social media and going through his/her posts is to ask ourselves if we would feel comfortable with our spouse sitting right beside us we proceed with these searches, comments, and “likes”.  We should also consider whether or not we would like our spouse to be looking up his/her old flames.  I have a feeling that the answer would probably be “No” for all of us, if we are honest with ourselves.  This doesn’t mean that we don’t trust our spouse or that he/she doesn’t trust us; it just means that we want to do everything we can to build trust, respect our spouse, and protect our marriage.  And, honestly, keeping up a relationship with an old flame both in person and online is counterproductive and potentially damaging to our marriage.

If you have already crossed the line and are in regular contact with an old flame on social media, end the conversation and connection immediately.  Don’t let it linger and get emotionally or physically involved.  Your husband/wife deserves your full heart and devotion.  So, end this now and focus on healing and strengthening your marriage.

Click on the CONTINUE button to see the final rule.