3 Truths Behind the “Secret” to a LONG and HAPPY MARRIAGE

3.  What we do, or don’t do, with and for our spouse on a consistent basis has a direct effect on the longevity and health of our marriage.

When questioning these couples, each and every one of them stated that the “little things” played a BIG role in the health and longevity of their marriage.  It doesn’t mean that grand gestures of love aren’t important.  However, these couples all agreed that what they did (or did not do) on a consistent basis usually defined the course of each season of their marriage.  Read “5 Little Acts of Love that will Make a BIG Difference in your Marriage” for more on this.

One of my favorite couples that we’ve met through our marriage conferences is an elderly couple whose names are Harold and Louise.  When we first met them, we noticed the glimmer of love in both of their eyes as Harold pushed Louise in her wheelchair.  They shared with us that they’ve been married over sixty years, and when we asked them what the “secret” is, Louise told us a story that I will always hold dear to my heart.

She told us that when they were dating, Harold brought her an “anniversary rose” every single month to celebrate their first date.  When they got married, she assumed the roses would stop, but Harold continued to bring her a rose every single month on the anniversary of their first date.  He never missed a month.  Not one.

As Louise finished the story, her eyes began to well up with tears as she recalled the over 600 roses that Harold had brought her through the years.  His eyes began to tear up too as she looked over at him with a smile and grabbed his hand.

Harold and Louise taught Dave and I such an important truth that day that we will never forget:  Our consistent acts of love and commitment will ultimately shape our marriage.  

So, what are you doing with consistency when it comes to your marriage?  Does it bless your spouse and family, or is it having a negative effect?  Talk about this your spouse and work together every day to cultivate and shape a thriving marriage that will stand the test of time and be an inspiration to all those around you.

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