6 Simple Ways to BEAT BOREDOM in Your Marriage

Dave and I have certainly had our ups and downs in our nearly 16 years of marriage, but I can honestly say that I love him more today than the day I married him (I know, I know, gag, right?)).  I seriously love him more because I know him more, and we have worked through our challenges together.   He keeps me laughing, and we love acting crazy together no matter how old we are.  And, I believe that is one of the reasons why we truly enjoy our marriage.

But, let’s be honest.  Marriage isn’t always rainbows and unicorns.  It takes a lot of work.

Sometimes, the more we know about our spouse, the more we dislike, especially during a less than romantic, tough season. That “man smell” your hubby gets after a long run is suddenly just really stinky and the farthest thing from sexy, or his high-pitched, kacklling laugh with intermittent snorts, that you once found so endearing, hits your ears like nails on a chalkboard.   We might even notice that our husbands seem more irriated with us and less willing to give us his attention or affection.   Before we know it, we can find ourselves in a exhausting daily grind with our spouses, and many times we just want to escape instead of engage with the one we love.  We spend less and less time together, we stop talking except for “business purposes”, and sex, well, it becomes just another chore on the list.   We become bored with our spouse.

It’s during these times, more than any otherss, that we need to turn things around before one of us does or says something that we will forever regret.

Whenever Dave and I are facing an exceptionally crazy or life-sucking season, which has pretty much been these last couple of years for us, I try to remember the following 5 things.  It is by no means an exhaustive list, but it has helped us during tougher seasons in our marriage.