When You Find Out That Your Husband Has a PORN HABIT…

1.  Try to stay CALM.

Calm your anger and abandon wrath. Don’t be angry— it only leads to evil.  Psalm 37:8

When you find out that your husband has been looking at porn, it’s easy to want to freak out on him.  But, that won’t get us very far; in fact, it will only make things worse.  Sure, we have every reason to be upset and angry, and it’s healthy to the tears flow.  But, we can’t allow rage to get ahold of us by staying angry.  Instead, we must pray and ask God to give us a peace that surpasses understanding.  We must also ask God to give us the words to talk to our husband about this issue, and ask Him to prepare our husband’s heart and mind to be ready to confess and address his porn habit.  When we pray, God calms our spirit and gives us a clearer view of how we need to approach a situation.

So, Friend, please know that it is okay to be angry and heartbroken over this.  What your husband has done is wrong and goes against your marriage.  However, your ability to calmly address the issue will pave the path for his recovery and the restoration of your marriage.  And, WHEN you address the issue is important as well…