5 Ways to Build More Trust in Your Marriage

5. Keep God as the center of your relationship.

“A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer.  Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”    Ecclesiastes 4:12 NLT

I honestly never thought much about this verse until  Dave and I had our premarital counseling, 15 years ago.  After one of our sessions, our pastor gave us a rather unusual wedding gift.  He handed us a real “triple-braided cord”.   He then explained the verse and said that this illustrated a strong marriage in which the husband, wife, and God each represent a strand of the cord, with God being the heartiest strand. This kind of cord is hard to break and extremely secure, but the cord as a whole is only as strong as each strand.  If one strand is compromised or cut off, the cord looses some of its strength and with enough weight it will eventually fold or break down completely.

The longer I am married and work with married couples, the more I see the truth of this verse played out.  I am not sure where you might be in your faith, but I encourage you to make and keep  God  at the center of your marriage.   So, how do we keep God as the  primary “strand” in our marriage?  We do this by making our personal relationship with Christ a priority.  We strive to know him more by going to church and reading our Bibles, and we make prayer a consistent part of our daily lives.   When we keep our relationship with God as our top priority, our mind and hearts are more prepared to approach our spouse with the love and devotion he/she deserves, and we essentially keep our strands connected to the “master strand” and our “cord”, or marriage, remains stronger.

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