How to Stand for What’s Right in Your Marriage

If you’re in an unsafe situation:

1.  Seek to understand the situation

Read Ephesians 4:2-3, Ephesians 5:25-33, & 1 Corinthians 13:4-13. Do these verses reflect the heart of your marriage? If not, pray that God would give you strength and provide the steps that He wants you to take. Taking a stand may look different depending on your situation and where God leads you.

2.  Talk to someone

Make an appointment with a biblically-based Christian counselor. Ask your church or pastor for recommendations (sometimes churches will pay for the first few counseling sessions). You might have to see a few before you find a good fit. Finding a counselor is like finding the right pair of shoes; it might take a couple of tries. You want to find one that you feel comfortable with.

3.  Open up to a trusted friend

When we struggle in our marriages, it’s not good to go through the pain alone. We need a support system that will encourage us. Ask a friend to pray for you, your husband, and your marriage fervently.

4.  Pray

Seek God’s comfort and peace. Even throughout the most difficult days or events, God loves you and cares about you deeply. He will be constant through the pain.

5.  Set up a safe place to go

You may not need to use it, but it’s good to have a place anyways. Ask your trusted friend, family, pastor, or counselor to help you find a safe place to stay. Your physical and emotional safety need to be secure before any healing can begin. 

Most importantly, know THIS…