A pastor sits down in a counseling session. One spouse verbally abuses the other, gaslights and shouts at them. The abused spouse attempts to protect themselves, stand up for themselves and maintain appropriate boundaries. At which point the abusive spouse calls foul and accuses the abused of being the abuser. The pastor, from the sideline, says, “Hey you two, you’re so polarized. Can’t you both just follow the golden rule?” That’s a mini-parable that summarizes my reaction to the recent... Read more