Dysfunction Dramas

The main relationship, the relationship you are supposed to root for, moves from dysfunction to rape, which is apparently okay, in fact the thing to do, in Donna Gabaldon’s Outlander series. I’ve never heard of her but apparently her books are a very big thing. Katrina Fernandez (always, always worth reading) is vexed at this “soap opera with kilts.”

I don’t have patience for soap operas and detest relationship drama type stories because it glamorizes dysfunction.

Fighting all the time. Sexual tension. Physical violence. That’s not romance or passion and it most certainly isn’t healthy.

As a woman who has survived a violent abusive relationship, y’all can take my word for it. That type of behavior is not romantic.

“Yes, but it’s just fantasy”, you justify.

This is what you fantasize about?

I fantasize about a man who will go to church with me every Sunday and tell me he finds my clumsiness endearing.

Why so many women find this kind of domination and abuse fantasy so attractive I don’t know, but it creeps me out. It’s a commonplace to make fun of the simpering cheesy romantic dramas of the fifties but though simpering and cheesy is bad, it’s still healthier than abuse and rape.