Ask Shaunti
Dear Worried Wife:
Yes, unfortunately, there’s plenty to look at. I realized the other day that the girls in the mall weren’t wearing jeans shorts. They were wearing denim underwear, artfully designed so their butt would hang out. Oy.
It would be easy to get paranoid, but honestly… it sounds like you have a good man there. I explained in the book how the male brain gets activated by those sights, and how easy it is for a guy to want to drink in those images and store them all up in his mental photo files to think about later. (We used to call it a mental Rolodex, but then we realized that anyone under the age of 30 had no idea what a Rolodex was!) I’m glad you notice that your husband is fighting that urge and trying to look away. Whenever you start to freak out, realize this one thing: in fighting his urge to look, he is trying to honor you.
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