When You’re For Women, but Not a Feminist

When You’re For Women, but Not a Feminist October 26, 2017

I don’t identify as a feminist. But that doesn’t mean I don’t believe in rights for women – equal rights for women. I thank God for the right to education, the right to vote, the right to own property, the right to drive, the right to dress how I choose, the right to leave my house on my own, and the right to work (among other rights). Of course, women should have these rights! It’s unfortunate that women even had to fight for these basics. And, yet, there are women around the world who don’t have many of these basic rights. Here are a few examples:

In Saudia Arabia, women can’t drive or vote.

Women in Yemen can’t leave their homes without a man.

Then there’s this, from the Middle East Quarterly:

“It is clear that Muslim girls and women are murdered for honor in both the West and the East when they refuse to wear the   hijab or choose to wear it improperly. In addition, they are killed for behaving in accepted Western or modern ways when they express a desire to attend college, have careers, live independent lives, have non-Muslim friends…choose their own husbands, refuse to marry their first cousins, or want to leave an abusive husband.”

And in 28 African counties, millions of women have undergone Female Genital Mutilation (You’ll have to look that one up for yourself. Warning: graphic and disturbing content will be found).

And it’s not just other countries. While American women have a tremendous amount of freedoms (as we should), there are problems here too. I’m from South Carolina, the state that has the ominous record of having the highest domestic violence homicide rates of women. This rate is far below what is seen in other countries, but that doesn’t mean we should stop working towards total eradication. We should fight against domestic violence, including homicides, through education, safe shelters, tougher prosecution, and more. We should continue to fight against sexual assault and rape. We should raise our girls (whether they are our children, our students, or our neighbors) to be capable, strong, and independent. And we should support bringing democracy and freedom to other countries so that women around the world can enjoy the same rights we have.

But I’m still not a feminist. I reject the label because it’s a loaded term. A term that is misunderstood and overused. A term that doesn’t bear much weight, in particular when action is not behind it. I reject it because it’s become a rallying cry for abortion rights, and not really for women’s rights. I reject it because feminists dismiss women who are pro-life or who choose to stay home with their children. I reject it because it’s often about dismissing masculinity and femininity, and claims equality while putting men down. I reject the feminist label because my identity is not actually as a woman, but as a Christian – that comes first and is the only label I want. And because I am made in the image of God, I’m definitely for women. But I am not a feminist. (By the way, I’m for men too.)


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  • Everett Kier Jr

    Thank-you…that’s all, just thank you and may your tribe increase!

  • Cindy Westfall

    I have thought long and hard about this issue. After years of thinking the same thing, being in total agreement with the focus of your concerns and your concern about men, I have quite recently come to a different conclusion about the word “feminist.” I believe that the primary reason that “feminist” is pejorative is because the successful vilification of the term is part of the attack and dismissal of the women’s issues that you describe. As I studied the advances that have been made on my behalf, I started to believe that I was disrespecting the shoulders upon which I stood (the feminists who secured the rights that I enjoy). I think that we would do better to see identification as a feminist as essentially a commitment to social justice for women, and recognize that there will be many who will work with me on these issues who believe, say and do things with which I don’t agree, but I suggest that we reject the negative control of terminology and assert that these negative associations are not essential to the word “feminist.” We should not be forced to keep choosing new terminology in order to appease those who are using propaganda tactics–that tactic keeps us distracted and divided in our efforts.

  • Paperboy_73

    A lot of people would say that believing in equal rights for women is the definition of a feminist. And that most of the perceived baggage has been hung on there by people trying to undermine that basic idea.

  • Satanic_Panic

    Of course, women should have these rights!

    Too bad your holy buybull disagrees. It clearly treats women as chattel.