Enneagram In Relationships with Charlie Ruce
This week in the “Shed” is our tool of the week – Charlie Ruce.
Charlie Ruce is the Clinical Director of the Soul Care House (www.soulcarehouse.com) as part of his work as a marriage and family therapist. Charlie is an expert at utilizing the Enneagram personality profiling system. If you aren’t familiar with the Enneagram we will catch you up in this episode as well as explain how it works and how specifically it can be an amazing tool for building empathy and growing relationships. Charlie is a specialist in his field at helping couples struggling to connect deeply and we discuss how the Enneagram can be a part of every couple’s next steps for improving emotional intimacy and connection. The Enneagram can also be utilized in corporate teams, friendships, organizational structuring, etc. so we dive into a variety of ways Charlie sees the Enneagram usage as a healthy component of empathy building.
If you aren’t familiar with your enneagram number, we recommended at the early part of the show that you go take a test and find out which number you are. You can find more information at the Enneagram Institute’s website and even a simple google search for “free Enneagram test” will give you options on finding out which number you are. Sometimes it takes a few tries and reading the profiles before you lock in which number you are. We give some practical tips in this episode to help you focus in as well as help your spouse or friends. If you’re just starting out understanding the Enneagram system you’ll love the podcast episode The Liturgist Podcast did about it. Do a search in your iTunes podcast app for that show and you won’t be disappointed. In this show however, we focused a little more in the practical applications of understanding other peoples Enneagram type.
The Enneagram is only one of many options to build connection between couples. Charlie revealed the 5 major areas in which all couples need to build on to have healthy relationships. The acronym for this is C.R.A.C.K.! We had some fun with that one!
C – Communication (tones, style, timing, listening, etc.)
R – Repair (how is conflict resolved, or is it?)
A – Acceptance (big part of the Enneagram discussion, this involves empathy, etc.)
C – Connection (rhythms of time spent together, intimacy and commitment tangibly).
K – Knowing (emotional bonding and known-ness, seeking to truly know the other).
This episode is loaded with tools we hope equip you to build stronger relationships. Hope you enjoy!