Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?

Why Are Black Women So Argumentative? October 3, 2014

Okay. So. I saw this video titled “Why Are Black Women So Argumentative?” being discussed in the context of a safe space for black women.  There are so many things we disagreed with her on.  There are so many things I wish she’d have made more clear or even more logical.  i.e. isn’t there a degree to which women of every race, ethnicity & creed become argumentative when pushed?  Or, why not acknowledge the exceptions or highlight some of the socioeconomic realities at play?

There are also things she said that I agree with.  And I SHO do hate having to admit that.  And I SHO do hate that she put us all on front street. On YouTube. In front of e’rybody. Yes, of course I hate the shame of being of called out.  Yes, of course I hate the shame of seeing myself or women I love in something someone has identified as shameful-behavior-for-a-black-woman-therefore-you-must-be-ratchet-and-bad-bad-bad.

The LAST thing I ever want to perpetuate is the narrative that we are somehow bad or worse than ____ or need fixing or adjusting in order to have value, a voice or a seat at the table of human dignity.

I know this po’ chile has come under a virtual sh*t storm for articulating these things out loud.  I have no interest in attacking her.  But I would like to offer a brief critique in the form of a few questions while recognizing that she made some constructive points amidst a few over simplified pontifications.

  • Why would black American women be angry today?  In list form, please.
  • How have we seen anger being handled appropriately or inappropriately for the last 12 generations?
  • What are the implications of the psychological trauma we’ve faced over the past 200 years?  How does it effect our cultural norms and behaviors and interactions with one another?
  • What are all of the profound, beautiful & justice-bearing, Kingdom-bringing, hope-filled freedoms & gifts that have happened as a result of an angry black woman?  In list form, please.
  • What is the role of internalized racism in the anger of black American women?
  • What is the role out outright racism in the anger of black American women?

No one should EVER have to ask themselves: What are black women so angry about?  I mean, really?


I’m joining with a herd of other bloggers who are writing for 31 days on the subject.  I chose 31 days of brevity: short posts on non-confrontational, non personal, non soul-bearing topics…hopefully.  I fear I may be a bit wayward all ready. Womp womp. I’ve all ready taken on passing as a white woman, purity culture & now angry black women.  Oops.  Well, you can’t blame me for trying.  Maybe tomorrow will be about soap or something less consequential.

31 DAYS of brevity



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  • Christ Disciple

    Hi Grace, what is your hubby’s thought on black women? Does he think they are quick to start arguments? My hubby is white too, and he used to think that black women were aggressive, until he met the spawn of satan in a form of a white woman. LOL

  • Tabitha

    I’m a black woman who is always considered “different”because I’m NOT angry. Actually black men I’ve dated in the past have found me to be a jewel. Black and angry don’t go together. I’m black and not angry. I have the joy of the Lord inside. That really does make all the difference. It supersedes EVERYTHING. Jesus is either God or HE isn’t. And since HE is, then there’s nothing man can do. When you’ve tried the Lord and he’s been all you’ve got, you learn nothing else works.That’s how I live my life. I literally live my life trusting the Word. Not color. Not the news. Jesus is my ALL.