Counting down…

…to when I get to hand out cigars. The publishers have the proof–now we’re waiting to see what the actual baby/book looks like, count all of its fingers and toes.

Here’s another taste of my new book, The Relationship Ride: A Usable, Unusual, Transformative Guide. Be sure to come celebrate with me on April 2! (Details below.)

“This whole process of finding “in-love-ness” and losing it can seem so mystifying. Because being in love feels so wonderful, we search for explanations as to where those feelings came from and where they went. Here are some popular beliefs:

• The bad shopper: I chose the wrong person. This person is defective and I’d like to make an exchange.

• “In love” as a virus: It happened to me mysteriously, and it equally mysteriously left. But hey! Now it struck me again—with this new person.

• It’s all about romance: If my partner (or I) took time to be more romantic, we could get it back. But for some reason we don’t take the time.

• It’s not real anyway: I was just infatuated and in the illusion of newness and great sex; nobody is really that wonderful.

• It’s time for a new model: Cars get old and so do relationships, so they need to be replaced.

• Long-term relationships require “settling”: Being in love is just for those newly together, or the young, so we should just resign ourselves to a passionless existence, accepting that we’re missing one of life’s sweetest gifts. (This one is closely related to the next, and most popular, belief.)

• I love my partner; I’m just not in love with him. The death knell of relationships.”

Come celebrate the launch of The Relationship Ride: A Usable, Unusual, Transformative Guide. Saturday, April 2, 7:00pm, The Boulder Center for Conscious Living, 1637 28th St (west of Q’doba). Book reading/signing, champagne and noshes, sea shanties and jigs, and free sailor hats to the first 50 people!