Influence through physiology: From power struggle to flow

Do you want to know how to truly influence those around you? How to move out of control battles and find ways for everyone to get everything they want? There really is a way to do this–and it will take you right into that magic river of flow. Let’s do an experiment. Imagine that I’ve got [Read More…]

Building a friendly universe one inner state at a time

Does one’s inner state really matter that much? What if what is going on inside of you really is all that matters? Find out more…   I recently asked “Do You Live in a Friendly Universe?”. In that blog post, I reflected on the importance of one’s inner state and how to connect in with a larger, [Read More…]

Want to get out of the Triangle with politics?

  You may have seen my blog challenging you to stop consuming two types of news, and then to add in a daily dose of creativity creativity. (Here’s that post.)  I took my own advice. I stopped watching Rachel Maddow, and I stopped reading Huffington Post.  What a relief. I added in creative time nearly every day. I painted [Read More…]

Power dynamics: We know ’em when we see ’em

  Today I’m sharing my biggest discovery, culled out of over 40,000 hours of working with clients. All problems in relationships come from entangled power dynamics. I’ve tried so many approaches to getting issues to shift, both with my clients and in my own relationship. Speaking the other’s love language. Watching the ratio of criticisms to [Read More…]

A challenge from the EEPs!

  One of the main challenges of our work has been to find something that people like better than the rush they get from adrenaline. And we’ve found it–creative expression. –Kathlyn Hendricks, Ph.D   Are you up for something that might push you a little, but will ultimately help you feel better and better? Keep reading… [Read More…]

Today, forgiveness

Forgive: The sense of “to give up desire or power to punish” (late Old English) . -–Online Etymological Dictionary  Our species has a proclivity for revenge, for punishment. We tend to be concrete and literal: if I’m ok, then you do something and I experience pain, it makes sense to me to blame you and [Read More…]

Do you live in a friendly universe? Redux

I wrote this back in January, 2015. As I was meditating this morning, it occurred to me that my attention has shifted back to focusing on what I see as the unfriendly aspects of the universe–chemical warfare, warmongering, political strife, potentially irreversible climate change–what is wrong. And I know that, once I go into Narrow [Read More…]

Video: Understanding the Inner Map

I presented to Katie Hendricks’ Leadership and Transformation program on 12/3/16. Here’s the YouTube link. Enjoy the theory behind the Inner Map, including: how to generate (vs drain) your energy how to use your stories to anchor yourself to an expanded state what Real Power looks like Narrow vs. Open Focus How to maximize living from Creative [Read More…]

Be an activist: Choose joy!

In the onslaught of current political news, how do you decide what to actually DO? Your energy can split out in many directions. You could call your congresspeople every day. You could go to the myriad of marches. You could read everything you can get your hands on, or listen to all form of news [Read More…]

Power tool chest #1: Inner Map

Hello Patheos readers! If you know me, you know how much I appreciate having the right tool for the job. I love the satisfaction of getting the perfect wrench to loosen that darn rusted nut, or having the instructions specify “drill using a 5/16” bit” and having THAT EXACT BIT. Similarly, I’ve amassed a whole [Read More…]