Trump? Villain or…?

August 5, 2016 By Julie Colwell

I’ve been transfixed by the election cycle this time around—have you? Participating in the Bernie/Hillary debate (and having some friendships spinning around our differences); watching in awe as the First Woman in History accepted the presidential nomination (let’s go back and savor that moment again………..wow). And then. The immersion into Trumpdom. I admit it, social media has been a quick fix for me. Just looking at the headlines on Huffington Post gave me an adrenaline buzz. Immersing myself into my... Read more

I just don’t trust–who?

June 6, 2016 By Julie Colwell

To state the obvious, trust is a major issue in relationships. In fact, when I see couples, it follows “communication” as The Issue. “I don’t trust you because you…” …cheated on me. Lied to me, betrayed me. Tricked me. Hurt me. Hurt me DEEPLY. As we get under the superficial presenting issue, however, I invariably find the real source of mistrust: People don’t trust themselves. They don’t trust their body signals, they certainly don’t trust their emotions, those surges of... Read more

The miracle of the darkness

May 9, 2016 By Julie Colwell

As humans, we instinctively recoil from the darkness. We know that danger lurks out there. There might be wild animals, waiting to tear us apart, or a deep hole we might unwittingly fall into, or a robber or marauder or rapist waiting to attack us. The darkness is unpredictable, unknowable, uncontrollable. To be avoided. The natural extension of this aversion to the darkness is try to sort out the good and the bad, what we should stay away from, what it’s... Read more

Relationship DIY Podcast #9: Show Up!

April 12, 2016 By Julie Colwell

Life gives us ongoing opportunities to make a choice: Do we go to sleep, relying on automatic responses, just getting by? Or–what about showing up? Dr. Colwell tells you how to take this step into aliveness and creating flow in every relationship. Read more

Relationship DIY Podcast #8: Get to the shore!

January 15, 2016 By Julie Colwell

Have you ever felt like you were getting swept away by emotion? Had an interaction with someone where one (or both) of you were going DOWN? In this podcast, Dr. Colwell takes you through a concrete, easy-to-remember picture about what to do when in an emotional flood: Just get to the shore! Read more

Flow happens

January 15, 2016 By Julie Colwell

Have you experienced flow in your life? I know when I’m in flow when I’m part of life, letting myself be taken by the currents. Like a river rafter, I might be in high waters or low, or maybe I’ll occasionally bounce off a rock or go through some scary rapids, but I’m moving through life. Then there are those times that I’m stuck in an eddy, or sitting still in stagnant waters, unable to move at all. I think a... Read more

What if you knew you were fully supported by life?

October 26, 2015 By Julie Colwell

Have you ever felt like you were battling against life, that life, somehow, “had it in” for you? That, despite your best efforts, you couldn’t “make” something happen? Me too. Then I started imagining a new paradigm. It started with this question: What if I believed I was fully supported by life? That’s one of those head-snapping shifts of perspective. How could that be, if things weren’t happening the way I’d planned, if I felt exhausted and like I was fighting... Read more

Here’s to the dreamers

June 27, 2015 By Julie Colwell

In 1993, I was one of those who marched on Washington to support gay rights. It was post Amendment Two, the dark days following Colorado’s referendum that made discrimination against gays and lesbians part of the state’s constitution. One of the events of that march was a mass marriage, led by Rev. Troy Perry of the Metropolitan Community Church. My partner and I went and participated, chanting the vows with the hundreds of other couples who came together, some who... Read more

Relationship DIY Podcast Episode #7

May 11, 2015 By Julie Colwell

The SHIFT: Moving from Reactive Brain to Creative Brain. The skill for getting out of relationship conflict is to notice when you’re in Reactive Brain and then know how to move into Creative Brain. In this episode, Dr. Colwell gives you an introduction to this powerful ability.[powerpress] Read more

Soothe it, don’t solve it

May 7, 2015 By Julie Colwell

Have you had this conversation with a partner? (It’s likely that you were either “A” or “B” as this dynamic tends to lend itself to polarization.) A: We HAVE to talk about money. I was just paying the bills and we’re running out of money. We need a BUDGET! B: Wellllll….OK. A: So let’s start by figuring out how much you’ve been spending. B: Me? Wellllll…OK. (Looking sheepish.) I did buy some shoes last week online. A: See, that’s what... Read more