October 18, 2020

Your words may say you’re crazy about your spouse, but your body language may be sabotaging your love life without you even knowing. Body language says a lot about you, your relationship, and how you feel about your partner. Research suggests that negative body language is easier to pick up on than positive. The Frontiers in Psychology Journal suggests that positive emotions require stronger signals than negative ones when it comes to nonverbal flirtation. Basically, if you want to use… Read more

March 3, 2020

Years ago, my husband and I moved from Colorado to Alaska. We’d only been married for three years and it was the first time I had lived away from my family. But we were excited about the move and looked forward to exploring our breathtaking new home. My husband and I settled into jobs we liked and found a comfortable place to call home. After trying out a few churches, we found one that was a perfect fit for us…. Read more

August 28, 2019

Everyone says they want a happier, healthier, more loving relationship with their spouse, and who could blame them? That idea of happily ever after sounds pretty good, right? Here’s the thing however – too often it’s not always our partner that creates the rifts that allow us to drift apart. Many times? We’re the ones getting in the way. Here are seven things to quit right now if you want to create and sustain a healthy, happy marriage. Quit Thinking… Read more

August 28, 2019

An affair is the violation of the marriage contract that occurs when the spouse is replaced by someone or something else. It is one of the worst things that can happen to a marriage because it violates everything you’ve built with a partner in such a personal way. We are often blindsided by these relationships because we didn’t see it coming. You might not have physically cheated on your spouse, but have you had an affair in a different way?… Read more

August 28, 2019

Manipulation is insidious. It makes you doubt your own perceptions and can keep you from even realizing that you are being manipulated. If you do manage to figure out that something is not quite adding up, that does not mean you can automatically shake off all manipulation. Manipulators are excellent at playing on your strongest emotions, and emotional reactions tend to bypass your better sense. A master manipulator could essentially tell you to your face that he is going to… Read more

July 9, 2019

A fight between two people (lovers, spouses, family members) is a kind of psychological battle often filled with personal attacks, accusations, and dredging up past mistakes. When both parties are exhausted, or one grudgingly concedes, the fight ends – for the moment. But nothing has changed; resentment has just gone underground until it’s dug up again, and hostilities soon resume. But it needn’t be this way. There’s a little known “magic” that can stop any fight in the moment, and… Read more

May 22, 2019

The highly popular and recently concluded television series Longmire featured a dedicated and unflappable sheriff bent on maintaining law and order in the rugged terrain of Wyoming without the use of a technological staple – the cell phone. Walt Longmire represented that part of every generation who desperately holds on to the good old days while inevitably finding themselves being dragged kicking and screaming into the technological advances of the next. Maybe you as a parent or grandparent can relate… Read more

May 20, 2019

Most of us have heard of an area in a hospital called the “ICU.” These three letters are an “acronym” that is an abbreviation for “Intensive Care Unit.” The ICU is a designated floor in a hospital where, due to a severe injury or sudden onset of a life-threatening health issue, one is taken to receive round-the-clock attention. Even if we’ve never been in such a place, surely we know someone who has. Now, keeping this same idea in mind,… Read more

April 12, 2019

Here’s a situation many of us may be familiar with. We’re spending a relaxing evening at home, or maybe we’re taking a nice walk with the one we love. As far as we know, everything is just fine. And then all at once, with no warning at all, our partner says something that makes us feel like they just tossed a bomb at us. Now that it’s too late, it’s obvious: we didn’t see any of the familiar signs that… Read more

April 11, 2019

Just before a moment with another person starts “going south,” there’s a part of us that realizes something is about to go terribly wrong. Our usual response is to blame the other person for “ruining our day.” But, for those of us who seek the ability to weather this storm, and all those to come, there’s something different we can do that not only keeps our day from being ruined, but that elevates both ourselves and the other person –… Read more

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