SAYING 55: Jesus said, “Those who do not hate their fathers and their mothers cannot be disciples of me, and those who do not hate their brothers and their sisters and take up their cross like me will not become worthy of me.”
Even in the Synoptic texts, this saying is troublesome and hyperbolic. I can remember teaching this text from Matt. 10:37-38 and Luke 14:26 by pointing out that Jesus doesn’t really mean we should “hate” our parents or our brothers and sisters but that, in comparison to how much we love Jesus, it should almost appear that way. Essentially, this is hyperbole and not to be taken literally.