A Few Thoughts On Mary, Our Mother, For Anyone Struggling With Loneliness After Divorce

Before the angel appeared to her, Mary had plans for her life; honorable, worthy plans of remaining a virgin in the service of the Lord. Her parents had sent her to the temple to live when she was just 3 years old for this very purpose, and it was understood she was dedicated to the Lord. But God’s plans for her were different.

Mary said yes to God’s plan, but when Joseph wanted to divorce her because she was pregnant and unmarried, Mary didn’t say, “Wait a minute… I didn’t sign up for this.” When Simeon told her her own heart would be pierced by a sword of suffering, she didn’t cower in fear and say, “I can’t do this.” She found her strength in God and was faithful to his plan until the very end. She was committed.”

Thinking about these aspects of her life made me pause and reflect on my own situation. I had plans to be married until the day I died, but those plans had changed. I was faced with a lot of suffering because of my divorce and had said many times to myself, “I didn’t sign up for this. I can’t do this.” But the truth was, if I just remained committed to God and trusted he would take care of me, I could do it. All things are possible with God. Even though I despised being alone, Mary’s example was a great encouragement to me.

The Gospel always shows Mary meditating and reflecting on the things of God. This intimate interior relationship with God was what allowed Mary to trust him in moments of darkness and incomprehension, what strengthened her in moments of sadness, and, finally, what maintained her hope when, at the end she was left alone as all of the apostles fled from the shadow of the cross.

If you are struggling with loneliness and hardship after going through a divorce, I encourage you to take some time and reflect upon Mary’s life. Mary loves you with the greatest motherly love. She longs to help you by leading you to her Son, and she does so through her example to you.

In imitating Mary, you will find a richness and elegance that is lacking in many “role models” of today. You will come to know a trustworthy and caring friend that you can always rely on. And you will discover a source of happiness in your heart that brings peace, stability and confidence.

Lisa’s new book, A Road To Healing: Daily Reflections For Divorced Catholics, is a great companion for anyone struggling with loneliness and rebuilding after divorce.