A Heartbreaking Happy Hour Tale That Can Help You On The Road To Healing After Divorce

1. Focus on healing

Don’t use dating and relationships as bandaids. Give yourself enough time to heal from your divorce so your heart is ready when the right time comes. Reflect on the things you want to change about yourself, the type of person you don’t want to become involved with, or the attributes of the future relationship you want and write those things down. Then write down how you will make those changes and then put them into action. One excellent way to achieve healing is going through the annulment process.

2. Learn to enjoy your own company

Sometimes, you have to push yourself to do something even though it’s uncomfortable. For me, it was getting out and doing things by myself. I did a lot of things like working on my golf swing at the driving range, going blueberry picking, or spending time at the beach. What about you? Do you have things you say you never have time for? Something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t for whatever reason? Now is a great time to venture out and feel more comfortable in your own skin. You can make great progress in healing by taking this step.

3. Talk about it

Whether you seek professional counseling, spiritual direction, or just talk to a friend, talking about what’s happened is a big part of healing from divorce. It helps to get it out of your head and heart into the open where you can look at it a little more objectively. But most importantly, make sure you’re talking to someone you trust, and one who will actually listen, not just try and spout out advice in an effort to try and “fix” you.

4. Keep your eyes on the goal

Keep in mind your ultimate goal is getting to heaven, and when the temptation to do the things you know will prevent you from your goal present themselves, say a quick prayer for strength (God, help me!) and remind yourself of this goal.