6 Types Of Baggage That Ruin Relationships

I also remember standing in a coffee shop waiting for my beverage one day a few years after my divorce, and in walked someone who looked so much like my ex-spouse that for a moment, I panicked. My heart raced and I had to catch my breath. Luckily, it wasn’t him after all, but the whole experience left me feeling very sad and frustrated. How could this be happening to me when I felt confident I had moved past this point? If my goal was to fall in love with someone else, why did I still care about my ex-spouse? Was it possible I was using dating and relationships as an antidote to the pain?

These were bright red flashing warning signals that I needed to pay attention to because if I didn’t sort out my emotions, they would become worse over time and eventually handicap my ability to freely and maturely love someone else. Have you experienced something similar?

Because divorce is a traumatic event, there will always be some sort of pain associated with memories of your divorce, even when you are happy. That’s natural, but those occurrences should be benign events that pass quickly. If they don’t, you’ve got to heed the warning, roll up your sleeves and do a little dirty work. But don’t worry, that work will pay off in big ways.>/p>