I’ve had many conversations in which is embedded the unmistakable message that since I am not “going to church”, things aren’t right with me. It’s very subtle but it’s there. I can hear it.
For those who go to church faithfully, and especially for those who work for it, it’s completely understandable why they feel that way. I admit: I was there once.
This is what I hear, often salted with pity:
- Even though the church is a horrible place for many people, it’s the best we’ve got. In fact, it’s what God has chosen through which to do his work.
- Because I’ve left, I’m the one with the issues.
- If I just got over my bitterness and unwillingness to forgive, I’d humble myself and go back.
- My departure is hurting and confusing people, which makes it a selfish move on my part.
- This last episode reveals a pattern that just proves I’ve got a serious problem with recurring negative ramifications.
I’m the last to deny I’ve got problems or issues. But I also sometimes know when to make healthy choices.
I am visiting the church I left in April this next Sunday to see my friend Jon inducted to the pastoral charge of that church.