gay saturday: just friends

gay saturday: just friends January 7, 2012

I have gay friends who have tried this maneuver. It only works for a while.

Because I also have straight friends who after a while were accused of being gay.

No matter what our sexuality is, it is difficult to navigate in a fearful, paranoid and judgmental world.

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  • Jacquie Kernick

    Sure is close to the truth for many….how sad. I always hated the fact that part of dressing up for church also included putting on a mask and playing pretend. So, so glad I escaped all that kind of behaviour but also regret I spent so long being uncomfortable with a lot of church stuff and keeping up the pretense.

    David, I just can’t get off this damn computer for looking at all your art and blogs….where have all you great people been all my life?

  • +fr. Neil V. Cahristensen, c.s.e.f

    Or, how about joining an open and affirming, real Christian Church? I’ll be glad to send you info about one in your area…

  • Jacquie Kernick

    I’ll pass, thanks Neil.

  • Ransom

    I agree. lying about sin will do no good. Only confessing it in honesty will bring about any real good.

  • oh ya that’s totally what i meant was these guys are unrepentant sinners. guh!

  • Jacquie Kernick

    Newsflash….I’m not with you, Ransom. No lies involved…

  • Sarah

    Poor loves. Damn the place that makes them feel uncomfortable.

  • Ransom

    I WANT to like your cartoons, I really do. But some of them are just so wrong. Sigh…I guess you are like most pastors, I have to take the good with the bad. Why is it a terrible thing to call gayness a sin? There are a lot of things out there that we don’t mind calling a sin. Why is this different? Sin is sin, confess it let God free you from it and move on. SHEESH.

  • Ransom makes three critical mistakes.

    1) Ransom does not define “sin”. Here is a hint, “sin” does not have a singular definition – and there is a difference between “sin” and “sins”.

    2) Ransom seems to assume that “sin” is the only characteric of the human condition. This is a wrong assumption both secularly and theologically.

    3) Homosexuality is not, in and of itself, a sin.

  • Gary

    Ransom said…”Sin is sin, confess it let God free you from it and move on. SHEESH.”

    Wow – Hard to believe this level of ignorance still exists. You sound just like the arrogant fundies in the church I left behind. Thank you for reminding of why I will never go back to that place.

  • Jacquie Kernick

    @Gary…. I’m with you on your last comment…seems many of us have had a narrow escape and are finally free from the confines of fundamental church. Yay 🙂

  • Gary

    So true Jacquie,

    If I ever go back to a “church”, it most certainly won’t be the same type I left.

  • A Different Michelle

    This one just makes me sad.

    I do admit that I have a difficult time understanding why someone in this situation would not switch to a church with different theology, if they lived in an area where such a church was a available. That said with the understanding that they should not have to do that.

  • Vic

    I’ve been in this position, only not with just my sexuality.

    I’ve had to hide most of who I am for my entire church life for fear of condemnation.

    My music preference. My film taste. My choice of friends. My art. My gender. My wish to never start a family. My general views on the world. Even my political opinions… All of these things would be scrutinised with a suspicious eye.

    Why do most Christians live in or create this environment?